Most will agree that we live in a world in which outside manifestation and accomplishments are given much more attention and rewards than any inner changes. We admire other people’s ability To climb a mountain, to win a race, to grow a business, maybe to gain better health, become someone in the community that’s more respected, create art, music, writing, and the list goes on.
While all of these accomplishments are wonderful, and we are here to manifest and create our dreams, there is very little if no recognition given to the inner accomplishments. When was the last time you were admired for becoming more self-loving? Or releasing an emotional trauma that has been with you for a while? Do any of your friends or neighbors recognize in you the spiritual warrior that you are? That you have worked lifetimes to allow your spirit into your physical reality? That you are carving out a road that no one has taken before you? That you are altering the current mass consciousness as we speak? That you are a pioneer and in the forefront of the Ascension movement?
That you have taken so many spiritual and emotional risks to get to where you are today? No, I doubt if anyone in your family or community would really understand your personal accomplishments in that area. I don’t mention this so that you can feel resentful, but so that you can begin to give yourself the credit you are due. The odds that were against you from early on, and how you’ve moved through so much and are still here is testimony to your inner resolve. Have you been patting yourself on the back for everything you have done, and for all the inner changes you have gone through? Because if you’re waiting for anyone else to do it for you, you will be waiting a very long time.
To your mind it may not seem that you have accomplished as much as you think. But just remember the mind has been conditioned to see accomplishments as an outer manifestation. As you are moving into the new energy, every cell of your body is transforming. Your consciousness is transforming. You are releasing old patterns and systems of beliefs. The outer needs time to catch up with the inner. It does no good to be hard on yourself because you think you should have more physical manifestations by now. Sometimes these things take longer because the physical is the last to catch up with the inner changes. And while outer rewards for physical accomplishments are wonderful, it is time to give ourselves the awards and rewards for all of our consciousness work.
What we are learning is that simply by existing, we are worthy of anything we desire. We are learning that creating does not need to be hard work. That manifesting can come from joy. The journey has to be joyful. In actuality there is no need for competition or for evaluating the level of accomplishments, even the inner ones. That is all duality thinking. But meanwhile, do give yourself credit where credit is due, dear light worker. Take a walk down the Red Carpet and receive the award for being you.
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While it may not feel like it most of the time, we are in each moment creating our reality. In the old energy, creating in 3D was cumbersome, slow and involved a tremendous amount of effort. Because of the time lag, by the time our manifestations appeared we couldn’t see the connection between them and our own creator abilities.
Write Your New Script
In the New Energy, our creations appear more quickly and with much less effort, provided we are lined up vibrationally with them. In a way it was a blessing that the time lag existed because we could end up creating irresponsibly. As we awaken and become more conscious, our creations do too. Since we are the creators of our own ‘movies’ why not create something new? Start writing a new script. In your new movie, do you want to be rich? Have more energy to do more things that are fun? Do you want to be emotionally independent? Financially independent?
Do you want to travel? Live in a beautiful home? Do you want to be more adventurous? Play more? Trust your intuition more? Be more at peace? More Psychic? Explore other dimensions? What is your new name? How will you dress? Will you have the same friends? Will you have a select number of people in your life who are also self-fulfilled? Will there still be some drama in your life? What? Did someone just say that a good movie always has some drama otherwise it would be boring. Are you willing to challenge yourself to not include drama in your new movie? To have a movie that contains passion, adventure, fun, creativity, music, art, dancing, travel, without drama?
And a happy ending, and a happy beginning, and a happy middle?
Dare you dream so big? Well, dear time traveller, dear lightworker, what else is there left to do? Perhaps your body is tired, and you just want to rest. That’s a perfect opportunity to dream your dreams. You’re not running around so much anymore. That is the best time to relax into your imagination. Perhaps the journeying is over for you. The searching for yourself, the processing. Perhaps you are ready to claim your mastery. To allow your soul to continue melding with your body and your life. That may take a little more time. It takes as long as it takes. Meanwhile, it’s important to ‘set the stage’ for your new manifestations. To begin to bring your soul dreams here to Earth. Don’t worry if you change your mind. That’s allowed. You can flit around like a butterfly from dream to dream. Maybe one or two will feel great. Maybe they will feel like your heart is opening when you muse over them.
Those may be the ones you want to activate. So, command the brilliant new energies to work on your behalf. Then, just relax. Know that they are already done. It will take some getting used to because in the old energy we wanted to micro-manage the details. That’s a no-no in the New Energy. It’s all about allowing and not getting all mental about it. And it’s going to be different. Maybe the old dreams just don’t fit you any more. It’s a new time and it’s time for new dreams.
So write your new script. have fun with it.
Start feeling it right now. Because it sends the signal to the universe that you are already living the dreams.
More women than men seem to be drawn to the new age arena. That is because women are well equipped with the tools essential to the awakening process.
Men as well as women have been drawn to women for their warm, loving, and compassionate nature. For centuries, women have been trained to be giving, nurturing, understanding, compliant, sweet, and concede to others’ needs before their own. They have taken on and processed the emotional burdens of humanity. But in these new times, women are needing to turn those qualities upon themselves. To be self-nurturing, and self-loving. To release once and for all our care taking roles. Our new-found soul connection is demanding that we take ourselves seriously in the self-love area! It’s almost like the next wave of women’s liberation!
Of course, there have been incredible strides because of women’s liberation: we have taken equal positions in the workplace, are on equal footing as men sexually, socially, and politically to a very large degree. Of course much still needs to be accomplished, but admittedly we have come a long way, baby!
I find it amazing that I was born a mere 30 years after women were given the right to vote here in the United States. I was brought up in an era where men were the breadwinners, and women the homemakers. Men focused on their careers, and women focused on the home, children, and their men. I remember feeling inferior to men in my life because of my upbringing, and because my voice wasn’t as loud or deep or commanding as a man’s voice. I also felt threatened by men because they appeared to be smarter in terms of what I now consider superficial knowledge. They also seemed to be more devoted to and focused on their careers and goals and I just did not feel that same intention in my life. I remember spending so much time and energy trying to please men, and wanting to be taken care of by them. It’s taken me a lifetime, but I am finally recognizing who I am outside of that self-imposed role I was playing. I am recognizing the gifts I have – that we all have, of being able to feel: of intuition, and empathy which are profound, and are what will bring the ascension, enlightenment, to the earth and the omniverse.
In the beginning stages of women’s liberation, women felt that they had to act like men in order to be taken seriously. They thought they had to be aggressive, push more, be more controlling, more competitive, especially in the workplace. And to a certain degree that’s still true today. However, we are learning that creating in the world comes from a vastly different tool box. We are awakening to the realization that intelligence isn’t just about how to put together an engine, how to read the stock market, how to solve a math equation ( which by the way it all comes down to interest in those areas, and allowing ourselves the confidence that we can learn it ).
We are beginning to understand that intelligence, especially the new consciousness intelligence, comes from an entirely different source. Intuition and divine knowing is that source. And who better equipped than women to tap into this intelligence? We have access to our intuition and our feelings, so much more easily than men, the very attributes that have been put down by society. But the fact remains that women’s feeling centers are more open. And these are what are required in the new consciousness. The Heart center. the feeling centers, are being opened wide in the new energy. That is why it has been so much more difficult for men because they have been shut down in those areas for so long.
I consider myself extremely intelligent, and again, I’m not talking about knowledge of world events, history, math, the makeup of the human body, facts and figures smart, or even book-smart. I am talking about an awareness, a spiritual confidence.
However I am also aware that if I spend too much time within the community, or with certain people, I tend to lose my confidence a bit because, (and this is mostly the men folk), people are very focused on achieving, goal-setting, and competitive thinking. (Women have become more so as well). So, I begin to lose confidence in what I am about. First of all, being lightworkers, our confidence level has been low because we have had few role models and the world doesn’t recognize us or our contributions for the most part.
Enjoy my song while reading the rest of the post:
Rise Up, Sister!
Women need to rise to their positions spiritually. To take their places in the new energy as teachers, whether that takes the form of writing, counseling, or expressing their truth in some way. Our roles are dramatically changing. Hiding behind a man or a job or a family or just hiding from ourselves in general is not satisfying in the new consciousness. The only thing missing is confidence, not the skill sets, not the information, and not the wisdom. This of course applies to both men and women, but women are naturally on the forefront of the Ascension movement because of their attributes and history. Men are lost because they have been trained to shut down their heart and feeling centers. Our ability to feel, and to be empathic and intuitive trumps the intellect every time. The New Energy contains a balanced masculine and feminine meld. For this reason, the patriarchal, mental approach to life is not being sustained in the new consciousness.
I used to envy men because they seemed to take themselves more seriously, devoting their energies to their careers, their passions and their goals, and obtaining certain amounts of success in the physical world. Those successes can be measured. Our successes as lightworkers, not so much. Because of the outward directed, intellectual type of measurement, our contributions seem to go unnoticed. Our work has been expanding consciousness from the inside out. Consequently, our profound influence on art, music, science, technology, medicine, the media, politics, and other areas is not recognized so easily, so we are not always sure that anything is actually happening.
We as women are beginning to embody our divine masculine, and are coming to the forefront as the spiritual leaders and teachers, bringing humanity into the higher dimensions. But because we are doing it in quiet ways for the most part, and because there are no ticker tape parades in our honor for doing this work, we lack the confidence that many of our male counterparts possess. So do not ever underestimate what you are doing or who you are.
In order to do our work, we need to release our old roles as caretakers and nurturers for others, and let go of processing all the emotions for others, being there for others. That just won’t do. And we need to stop measuring our success by old patriarchal, mental standards. As lightworkers, both as men and women, we never fit into that paradigm anyway. I always envied that male energy for being able to bring concepts into the tangible world of form. I have done that in my life, but because it was mostly in the form of art, music and writing, it felt like it wasn’t as valid an accomplishment, because at least here in the states, those areas are the first to be cut in the school systems as ‘frivolous.’ I remember sitting in class (I was working toward my Master of Arts degree), and the professor said, “Now, before we proceed, just make sure you have a ‘back-up’ plan. What he meant was to make sure we had some ‘practical’ skills because getting jobs in the Arts was nebulous.
So yes, we have had profound obstacles as women, and light workers, and as creative artists, but, we are not victims. We are pioneers. We came in knowing it would be difficult, because we knew we would be doing something profound here, opening doors that have never been opened before. There’s a new way of creating. The feminine attributes of intuiting, allowing and of receiving are the new tools in the new consciousness. Early on we were taught to stop daydreaming, to get real. Yes, and we did. Oh we tried and tried to get real didn’t we? But the new consciousness is about using our feelings, which women are adept at, to imagine what we desire, and to allow it in. It’s not a mental process. So all the qualities we were told were not valuable in the real world: imagination, feelings, and allowing, receiving, and of course, the acknowledgement of our soul, are what is actually creating in the new consciousness. Actually, those attributes always have created. As we embody our divine selves, we recognize our new balanced masculine and feminine aspects as working together. We live along side a mental, goal oriented world, where the attributes of reason, logic, hard work, and competition are touted as the highest and most rewarded, but they aren’t working so well are they?
The Divine Masculine isn’t aggressive, competitive and controlling. It is fair but assertive, and is tempered by the Divine Feminine qualities of compassion, intuition, and receiving. It sets boundaries for the Divine Feminine so she can safely play and dream her dreams, and helps her to take inspired action to ground those dreams in this reality.
In the new consciousness there is no power. That is just an illusion anyway. There is no force necessary. The dominating type of forceful energy is dissipating now. It’s not having any place to work. Men are becoming more open, in terms of their emotions, and their intuition, and women are becoming more confident in terms of who they are and setting boundaries and seeing themselves and their attributes as valuable. And of course it all comes down to self-love.
Questions, questions, questions. We have had so many questions that seem to go unanswered, haven’t we? Like, how can I manifest more of what my heart desires? How can I have better health? How can I connect with my passion? How can I create more money and resources in my life? How can I find emotional balance and inner peace? How can I facilitate my ascension?
All these questions have a singular answer: Self-love. Sounds too simple. Most are looking for a more complex set of answers. But if you are reading this, you know that the answer is simple. Not necessarily easy, but simple. But once you begin to master self-love, the universal forces take care of the rest. You can find a myriad of information these days on the technical aspects of the Light Body Process, and they are wonderful for those who like that perspective. I enjoy reading those periodically because they help ground this process for my mind.
Now, self-love is not what most people think it is. It’s not working on improving yourself so you can feel better about you. It’s simply a state of consciousness and it’s the hardest thing a human will ever achieve. Why? Because it requires TRUST. Trusting that spirit loves us just as we are. Our minds are not so comfortable with that. We have a history of trusting and getting slammed. Self-love requires embracing ourselves just as we are right now. Not trying to do anything, fix anything, or prove anything to self or to others.
The best and easiest way to get closer to self-love is to start small. Because if you bite off more than you can chew, you will most likely beat yourself up for once again, ‘failing.’ Start taking actions on the smaller things that make you feel good. Because in the New Consciousness it’s all about feeling. Using our intuition. Our physical senses. Then you can work your way up to the bigger stuff.
Only you know what makes you feel good. For me, it was allowing myself more ‘me’ time. Most of my life I thought I had to get sick to take time off. Within the last couple of years, I noticed that I would have ‘accidents’ if I was ignoring my inner child. I have been slowly releasing my care-taking role, and the guilt that goes along with it. Now I find myself in a lifestyle that affords ample ‘me’ time. In fact, every day has become me time, in which I can relax and play and create music, and write.
It required me to release people, jobs, old limiting beliefs and have patience and trust. There were so many times I felt scared, alone and hopeless. I found a vast on-line community of folks going through what I was in varying degrees. It was comforting to know I wasn’t alone. I heard messages telling us to love ourselves first. And as I applied this truth, my life began to reflect that back to me. Synchronicities happened more and more.
The ascension is a rough road because it tears apart everything we though we were, physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. So I have learned that being kind to myself makes the journey easier. We need and deserve our creature comforts, and our soul is ready, willing and able to co-create those with us.
But we need to let go of the resistance. To allow it in. And part of that allowing is to feel good. To not let anyone or anything outside ourselves dictate how we want to feel. And it’s also taking action based on what makes us feel good. Maybe it’s taking a walk in nature, taking a long, undisturbed nap. Going to the theatre. Reading a book. Writing in a journal at the local cafe. Saying ‘no’ to someone’s invitation to do something if it doesn’t feel like fun.
And what we want will change as we ‘expand’ into our true selves more and more. It doesn’t truly matter what we do. As long as it resonates with our soul. I have a rule of thumb: if I am not sure about doing or not doing something, I will now take some time to feel into it. If someone asks me to do something with them, for instance, and I tell them, “can I think about it?” that usually means I don’t want to do it.
Sometimes you want to experience something but you are a little scared at the same time. The fear may be unfounded. Maybe you tried it before and it didn’t work out. It’s o.k. to do it with some of the feelings of fear or doubt. Years ago (1986) I took the Firewalk Workshop with Anthony Robbins. I remember, as I reluctantly walked across those 1100 degree coals (12 foot-long beds), I walked across feeling some fear and doubt. But I crossed without any burns or blisters, as did nearly 400 other participants. I was encouraged by Tony himself. I stood there before the coals, and turned to Tony and said ”I’m not ready!” He looked at me and said, ‘You’re ready. I’ll hold your hand.” And so he did but I remember that I wasn’t 100 percent sure as I walked.
So I bring this up because I don’t sense we need to be ’100 percent’ before we ascend. We can walk along side our fears and our doubts, and transform them. In fact the name of the Firewalk experience with Tony was ‘Fear into Power.’
This is not to suggest we attempt anything we deem dangerous, but it is a good lesson in being willing to get out of our comfort zones. For me, that comfort zone was wanting to be liked and accepted by others, at the expense of my own soul’s desires. So, our new ‘Firewalk’ is daring to be selfish. Daring to value ourselves and to take real, physical action to show ourselves and the universe we mean business! It’s a little scary, because it’s risking not being liked and approved of by those closest to us. Yes, we will have fears and doubts, but we can do it. We’ve been prepping ourselves for a very long time to do it. We may get ‘cold feet,’ I know I have many times. But you will find that you have less and less choice. Your soul will not settle anymore. Your spirit is becoming more and more of your physical self, and it will not stand for anything less than joy-filled. It may even be doing a chore, but with a new enthusiasm. Or it may be hiring someone else to do it for you. No rules here. Whatever it takes.
If your big dream is to be a millionaire, that is a wonderful desire. But if you won’t even give yourself an hour to yourself, to do what you want without anyone else in the picture, or turn your cell phone off for the afternoon so you are not so ‘accessible’ or any other small, kind gesture toward yourself, then how do you expect the universe to line up anything bigger for you?
The beauty of this process is that once you do more and more kind things for yourself, there is very little from the outside that will ‘rock your boat.’
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The New Consciousness in the New Energy is all about PLAY! No more struggle, hard work, sacrifice in the name of ANYTHING! This is not something we are used to. We are taught to be serious. In the New Energy we will be required to be serious about having FUN! That doesn’t mean we will not work at things that give us pleasure. But the work takes on a different essence.
You all can remember as a child how you lost yourself sometimes for hours in play, in your imagination, or a creative project involving a scissors, some clay, some poster paints and paper. It didn’t matter what was going on around you. You were in your own world. In fact most of the time you used that ‘space’ to find refuge from the seemingly crazy world you were born into.
Now you will be accessing those memories and combined with your soul’s wisdom, will be in a space of creativity and manifestation never before available. But it requires allowing the child playtime. Not once in a while, not squeezing in time after you finish your chores. It requires TOP PRIORITY. In fact, your big dreams can be fulfilled only when you allow yourself the smaller ones. Doing things that are fun, even simple things. Things that don’t necessarily cost much money, or none at all. Spending more time by yourself just relaxing. Buying yourself a coffee and dessert in your favorite cafe. Saying yes to a nice massage, or a relaxing bath. And it is also being kind to yourself in your own thoughts. Speaking highly of yourself to yourself. Paying attention to your inner child when she is lonely or sad or angry. Being there for her or him.
Pretend that she or he is physically present and ask her, what do you want to do today, dear one? She may tell you she wants to be with you and no one else. Or she may want to go to a movie, or walk on the beach, or maybe read a book or create something: a drawing, a painting, or play some music.
Your mind will rush in with protests. ”You’re being frivolous! There are things you need to tend to! You are wasting valuable time! What makes YOU so special. Everyone else is working hard! You are not being logical.” Hopefully not! Where we’re going logic is not being used to create.
The inner child is sweet, she’s intuitive, and she’s sensitive to the energies around her. She loves to play, with no agenda and no goals. She hates to compromise her joy for anything or anyone. Why should she? But in order to play she needs to feel safe. She needs to know she is being cared for. That she won’t be abandoned.
This is all new so it takes patience and practice. And actually the inner child, our soul, our spirit, and our human self are all one. There really are no divisions. We are in the process of integrating all of ourselves. But for now, be there as much as possible for your inner child, and allow her to connect you to your god-self. And tell your mind that it can take the day off!
Dear friends, how do you feel about being here? For myself, there are times when I want to bail. When my body is aching, when I feel exhausted, when I feel like I’ve gotten myself too deep into a situation I’m not enjoying. Who wants to be here in a broken down body? When their bank account is close to ‘zero’? What’s the point?
And then there are the days when all is going well, but there’s boredom. Where’s the passion?
Sometimes we on the ascension path are just not crazy about being in these bodies on the planet anymore. We didn’t bargain for all the physical and emotional ‘restructuring.’ involved in Ascension. It’s all just too much or not enough! What happens when we feel this way is we inadvertently redirect our resources to a different mailing address. What we want and need can’t be delivered here at home because our consciousness is somewhere else. Not in our bodies.
Recently, I witnessed a friend of mine (98-year-old) dying. For him it was a gradual process. He wasn’t really enjoying being here so much anymore. He lost his wife a decade ago, lived alone, did not have any hobbies and his family was quite a distance away. His body began to deteriorate: he couldn’t walk well, until he became confined to bed. He stopped eating much, and eventually his body shut down altogether.
Another friend, Grace, is 102 years old. She drives, goes to the theatre, lives alone, has friends, walks on the beach every day for one mile. She loves her life. She likes to say, health is the most important thing. But I believe she is healthy because she loves life. She participates in life. She is in perfect health and never took a medication in her life. They call her ‘Amazing Grace.’
Being empaths, lightworkers, ascendees in this lifetime, we took on a lot. One of which is our past memories of being persecuted for our beliefs. So is it any wonder we want to leave these bodies? As we ascend, we remember our true homes and tend to want to go off into other dimensions. We are learning now how to stay in our bodies while dimension hopping. Because if we leave our bodies and are not ‘home’ here, the universal energies will not know where to deliver our ‘stuff’.
It is challenging because we often feel like our work here is done, and aren’t as easily connecting to our passion for life here. In the past we could create drama and crisis to motivate us. But that’s not an option in the New Energy. As empaths we are ultra-sensitive to the harsh earthly environment. Another reason to want to ‘leave.’
We sometimes wait for the ‘lightning bolt’ to hit us with passion, but that’s not really the way spirit does it. It’s a quieter voice. We may think it’s not there. But it is.
We are the ground crew for the ascension. W are here to bring in New Energy and ground our light. In the old energy the process of dying was in place so that we wouldn’t get lost in these bodies and these personalities for infinity. But now we have the opportunity to move from one lifetime to the next while remaining in these bodies. Our bodies are still running on old programming. It’s why it seems things are getting worse instead of better. Our bodies need time to catch up with our expanding consciousness. Our light body is coming online with our physical bodies. But just as with any ‘move’, there will be initial chaos and discomfort, and a period of assimilation to the new environment.
Have you ever lived in a house while it was being remodeled? It always seemed like something was not complete. Everything was in disarray. You may have been looking forward to the new place but meanwhile you were inconvenienced greatly. And then you worried if it would be to your liking when it was done. It seemed to go on forever!
So things may feel like they are getting worse, but you are just preparing your house (your body) for spirit to live in. Your body is becoming your new home, your new address, for spirit. Meanwhile those around you may not understand what you are going through, especially in a world that is still asleep to their own body of consciousness.
But they will sense that, even though you are going through a chaotic process, you seem to have a sense of balance. Of inner peace. They wonder how you can display such peace when you are going through health, financial, and relationship issues. They still believe that joy comes only after you have all the things outside in place.
They are face-to-face with an ascending master, who is learning to find joy in the face of chaos. Something that money or position can’t buy; something coveted by many and attained by very few. We are understanding also that we deserve the best in life here. We are physically focused and need to be comfortable, and experience everything our heart desires. And we are creating that, but we need to remind ourselves that the ‘renovations’ are in progress.
As the ascension process continues, we discover that our family, friends, and community, for the most part, do not understand what we are going through. Fortunately, we have a growing global family who does. They are a few clicks away on the internet.
Meanwhile, we still have our own corner of the world to deal with and to live in. In my own life, I am taking advantage of the new energies and allowing more of my heart’s desires into my life, and less things that are motivated by wanting to please others. Not always easy considering we were taught that we must put aside our own needs for the needs of family, friends, and community.
The good news is, everyone is adjusting. With any change, even a good one, there is resistance, but as we learn to exercise our self-care muscles, those around us begin to learn our ‘new patterns’. I will rarely make plans ahead of time any more with anyone in my life, considering the bouts of fatigue I have been experiencing. It’s just too much pressure for me to make plans then have to cancel and disappoint people. I tell them, just call me the day of and if I can I’ll go there or whatever activity they invite me to. I’m also turning down invitations to things that just do not sound like fun. I have less and less tolerance for ‘small talk’ with people, so I make sure I don’t get myself in a situation in which I am doing just that. A few minutes here and there at the cafe is fine, but more than that, I grow weary!
I am still invited to the occasional ‘function’ of friends and family, but I will rarely go. It’s just too hard.
The Morning Ritual
In the mornings, I won’t turn on my cell phone until I’ve gotten my coffee, sat down (I enjoy going to the local Panera Cafe), written in my journal for a while, and stared out the window dreamily for a bit. And, actually it rarely rings anymore. (For me that’s a good thing.) A woman I know told me she would never turn her cell phone off unless she was in church, because she wanted to be accessible for family. I thought that was strange. And, as I look at her and her family, it’s a picture of stress and disease. Why be so ‘available’ if it doesn’t bring you any joy?
It’s so easy to play the victim and tell ourselves that we need to sacrifice for family or friends. It’s what we were taught growing up. We thought love meant being approved of, doing the ‘right thing.’ That’s the story of so much of humanity, isn’t it? So many are in jobs they can hardly tolerate for a paycheck. Perhaps in relationships that no longer bring them joy. But there is a growing unrest and the soul can’t be ‘tamed’ anymore. The cost is too high for the sense of ’security.’
Dare To Be Selfish
Why would I use the word, selfish instead of self-caring or self-loving? Because it gets your attention! Because for so many in the forefront of the ascension movement, guilt comes in. When you are feeling guilt for not ‘being there’ for others. It feels ‘un-spiritual’ to be self-loving. And, as I said, others will adjust or just move on to playing the guilt game with someone else. It also gives them permission to become more ‘selfish’ and do what brings them joy.
We have learned that we don’t need to change anyone else’s mind about anything in order for us to feel good. We have learned that we can just allow everyone else to be themselves. We also are allowing all of the emotions to come through us but not identify with them. The sadness, anger, depression: Most of them are not even ours. We get to choose how we want to feel, even if it takes some effort to get back to feeling good on our part.
As we become selfish we become more of who we really are. It means we are allowing in more of our soul. We begin to stand taller and radiate a quiet confidence. Others sense it. Things seem to flow more smoothly. People seem more co-operative.
I’m sure I still annoy and confuse people in my life. And they may never understand what I am going through. That I crave more time alone, that I enjoy my own company more than anyone else. That I have very little tolerance for manipulation or emotional dependency. Sometimes I still do some things from a place of obligation. I’m slowly letting that go, especially when my inner child protests.
We came here at this auspicious time to break patterns, and to create a new reality. Not to follow the old rules like lemmings. Oh, yes, there are moments when I wax nostalgic for a time when my life seemed nicely ordered: nice little job at an office, a partner, a nice steady paycheck, a little self-contained community. Not that there’s anything wrong with that, but for me, it spelled prison for my soul. And as we claim our masterhood in the new energy, we may want to go back to visit that life, but it will be from quite a different perspective.
If being selfish is too overwhelming for you, just start small. Turn off your cell phone for a couple of hours during the day. Decline an invitation from a friend or family member if it really doesn’t feel like fun without talking yourself into going. It takes trust to do this. Especially if you are one who identified themselves as a care-taker. Or a lightworker, or ….a woman!
Maybe you’re already being delightfully selfish on a regular basis. Then your loving actions toward others are coming from a place of balance, not from lack. All those reading this are courageous souls and are prepared to be and deserve to be grandly selfish!