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As the New Age approaches we find ourselves more open, that is, more clear and more sensitive to energies in us and around us….Many of us were empaths all our lives, feeling others’ feelings and owning them as our own. We would feel sad, angry, confused, anxious…wondering what the hell was wrong with us….sometimes feeling so bad we had to retreat into our own world.
A gift or a curse?
Of course it’s a gift to have the ability to sense energies around us, but because we were never taught about how to control them, we went through life feeling overwhelmed, and we found ourselves in situations we felt we had no control over. Because we tend to feel others’ feeling as if they are our own, we can end up in a relationship we didn’t see coming. Have you ever felt very passionate about someone when you were with them, but when you get back into your own space the feelings aren’t quite there anymore? Does it confuse you?
It could be that you were picking up his or her passion. you got caught up in their moment! I used to end up in relationships because I couldn’t distinguish my feelings from theirs. Although there were other dynamics involved, (I confused love with needing to be needed, so I found myself in needy relationships), as I became more clear about who I am, and what I truly want, it was easier to decide what was mine and what was theirs.
Yours, mine or ours?
If I am with someone for a while (several hours to a whole day)…I will get myself back into my space. and after a day or two I’ll see if I still feel those intense feelings….if I do, it’s probably mine, if I don’t, well, it’s probably theirs. I’m finding more and more that I’m not feeling those intense feelings….I know myself. I know that I am balanced and don’t need intensity to feel good, and I also know that intensity isn’t necessarily love.
Because of our sensitivities, many of us need more time alone. Don’t let anyone convince you that you are feeling something that you are not….you are learning to set energetic boundaries. It doesn’t mean ignore the feelings, ….. allow yourself to feel on every level. Try not to judge any of the feelings and emotions. But do check in with yourself to make sure you are not stepping into someone else’s world, and losing yourself or your perspective.
Relationships are wonderful and we can learn so much about ourselves in them. But because of your blossoming sensitivities, It’s wise to take as much time as you need to make sure you are on line with you.
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