Enjoy my song ‘Love Yourself’ while reading the post
Many of us are finally releasing our care-giving roles that we have been playing for eons of time! As both men and women, we often find ourselves in situations where we are faced with a decision. Someone may ask for our help, either emotionally or financially, and it just doesn’t feel right. Something in our gut is saying, ‘no’.
It’s very important to trust that initial feeling. It indicates that the person is asking from a place of lack. So giving in that case will just perpetuate that feeling in them. By saying no, and trusting that they have whatever it takes to give themselves what they need, whether it’s money, or emotional support, you are in fact being more loving.
Then there’s times when you are faced with a situation where you are offered something, perhaps money, or some material good, and it just doesn’t feel right to you. Again, trust your gut. It may not be the right time, or it may enable you in some way. So it takes courage to say no sometimes. It takes courage because we have a belief that says we are bad, not a good friend, lover, mother, father, if we don’t give, give , give. But we need to remind ourselves that in some cases giving is actually harmful to the other person…it can slow their own soul growth, and foster a dependency that is unhealthy for you and them.
There is a danger of going ‘logical’ and saying, but they have given me so much, I want to return the favor, but sometimes, if your gut is saying, no, this just feels wrong, and you may not really know why at the moment, that’s o.k. There are so many times when I don’t logically know why I am doing something…it just feels right…and, amazingly, it turns out good for all concerned. So many miracles have happened this way. That gut feeling is our inner being lovingly directing us.
But be gentle with yourself….you may have been in this role for so long that you don’t know who you would be without it. There may be a bit of a ‘void’ for a while until you settle into your new role. It requires some practice. Then you build confidence by acting on your instincts. You are doing beautifully considering how many life challenges there have been for you to work through….we are completing a cycle of lifetimes in this one lifetime, and we have so much to look forward to as we move into the higher dimensions and reconnect with our spirit. We are in good hands.