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Perfectionism in Spirituality


I read an article recently that contends that many people who claim to be ‘awakened’ are still experiencing anger, impatience and drama in their lives.  The article went on to say that if these people were really awakened or awakening, they wouldn’t be experiencing these feelings of anger, frustration and impatience with themselves or with others in their lives.

Like many others, the author was being hard on themselves.  They carry an idealized version of what an enlightened being is. Many of us in the New Age, or spiritual community, have been inundated with images of the evolved spiritual person,  someone who is “above” the human condition. Someone who is patient, kind, compassionate, understanding, and seemingly impervious to human ‘flaws’.  Some even contend that they sport halos.

This image seems to be an ideal that we strive for, and then when we fall short of it, we think we aren’t good enough or aren’t spiritual or awakened or ascending. Where did that idea come from? Who is the authority on the ideal ascending human anyway? The Bible? Let’s get over it, please! The Bible was written over 2000 years ago. It was appropriate for the times, and there were many wonderful timeless concepts, which have been misunderstood and misinterpreted over the eons. It’s time to redefine being spiritual. The idea that spirituality is about being above the human condition is false. Being spiritual, being awakened, is about integrating the human and the divine. making the unconscious more conscious.  It’s about honoring our emotions, our idiosyncracies, , our human desires. It’s really more of a descent than it is Ascension. It’s a melding of our spirit into our human bodies. If we want to step fully into the new paradigm, we need to relinquish our guilt, our shame, our fears, but it’s not done by denouncing our human selves. It’s not about running away from our human-ness.   Jesus was known to mix it up at the marketplace; he lost his patience more than once. No one wants you to know that. And I’m not even going to tell you about Buddha and his so-called shortcomings.  An awakening human is one who ultimately just says,It really doesn’t matter. I don’t need to figure it all out! I don’t need to pontificate so much anymore, for hours and days and months and years on my every issue. I don’t need to be “perfect”.  I just need to accept myself, my human self!

And, by the way, that is what our soul wishes we would do. So that we can finally feel worthy of inviting our soul into our body – into our life. Our soul does not care about goals or accomplishments, age, height, weight, eye color, bank account. It just wants to be with us. To experience life with us. It sees us as good, as innocent, as pure… as “perfect “, as awesome! Our soul sees us as courageous, as  adventurers. Your soul is in love with you. It will, if you allow it, do the heavy lifting for you. So, invite your soul in now.  You are more than ready. And you are more than worthy.  Becoming awakened is really being in the world but not of the world, meaning, being human.  And  also recognizing that you are much more. Recognizing that you are divine, multi-versal, and that your Divinity is having a Human experience.

In fact, if we want to transcend our humanness to such a degree as to no longer display human characteristics, well then why bother being here at all?  After all, there are many, many other dimensions to play in that don’t involve a physical body!

We’re all doing fine. We’re all ascending at our own pace and rate. We’re all awakening in our own way. It’s not a race, it’s not a competition. We just need to relax our expectations a little bit as far as what spirituality looks like.  Spirituality is being redefined in the new energy. We are going through what many are calling a rebirthing. And with this process there is going to be impatience, frustration, and many other extreme emotions. Just like a mother who is giving birth, we need to honor those feelings because it’s not an easy process. There are some labor pains involved.
So, be gentle with yourself, be patient with yourself… we talk so much about self-love but do we really know what that means? It means accepting ourselves. Unconditionally. You can even take the word love out of the equation for now and just begin to accept your human self. You have done nothing wrong. Many religions tell their followers that they are sinners and need to be forgiven. You do not need to be forgiven because you have done absolutely nothing wrong now or in the past. That’s big. Hard to wrap your mind around that one.  Many religious leaders wield guilt to keep their ‘flock’ from trusting their own god within.

Guilt – The Gift That Keeps On Giving!

Guilt. It goes way, way back. Much further than this lifetime. It actually began when we left our spiritual family and became human. It had to do with separation.  We felt guilty for separating from our spiritual source.  Guilt is a manipulative tool in relationships too.  But if you believe that we are all sovereign, and that we create our own reality, then there is no room for guilt, for feeling we have hurt someone’s feelings for instance.  They were creating their reality as well!  Besides, where we are at this point, we are too far along the spiritual path to hurt anyone.

Ergo, I Go!

In the spiritual community ego has been given a bad rap. Many believe we need to denounce ego in order to find God. In actuality, the ego means ‘I go.’  It was originally designed to separate from the whole (the oneness) and go forth and to become an individual.  To originally navigate in physical reality.  It was the original male energy, separate from All That Is. So it Actually served an important role. So it’s not that we want to destroy the ego but we want to transmute it so that it’s not running the show. Just as a single cell in our body is separate yet also connected to all the other cells and is unified into one body

Listen to  “Be Yourself” while reading the rest of the post.

So ascension is accepting our ego, our bodies, our emotions, all are aspects, all our idiosyncrasies, and all the rest of it. Well that sounds like a tall order doesn’t it? It’s not really. it’s just about relaxing. The Divine feminine is here now and is telling us to just relax more. Stop struggling so much to try to make things so perfect. Try it out just for one day. To just relax, not question things too hard, do something that’s fun, and watch what happens. The mind is going to want to come in and tell you that you’re being lazy, you’re not doing enough, it will tell you that it’s not going to happen unless you push!  Okay just tell the mind to chill, take a few deep breaths, have another sip of coffee or a cup of tea, or a drink of wine, or some chocolate, and just relax.

Then something amazing actually happens when you do this more and more  The inspiration starts to come out…. passion starts to come out like never before. Your find yourself wanting to do something but it’ll be something creative, something that you may have been thinking about or you didn’t even think of before. You’ll find that the creative juices will start flowing like never before.

This relaxing, this being more childlike, this accepting ourselves more with all of our humanness is an amazing gift to ourselves. Yes it seems to go against everything we have been taught, that striving, that working towards something, not that any of that is wrong, but in the new energy It’s going to go so much easier and you’re going to open up to so much more in your life if you just allow yourself to relax, and especially relax about trying to be so perfect.

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Author: soulsoothinsounds

Our lives are like great paintings or great pieces of music. If we focus on all the technical 'imperfections' we will miss the true beauty of the work. We won't see, or rather, FEEL the essence and spirit of the masterpiece. I no longer identify myself as a writer, artist, or musician. Rather I express my divinity, and my humanity through the media of art, music and writing. I began this blog because I wanted to give voice to my experiences and insights, and I wrote for myself primarily. Eight years later, I am still writing for myself, and I am discovering that my experiences are not personal but universal - galactic even. And now I am more sure than ever that I am a new consciousness teacher, as each of you are. The way we teach is by going through the very human experiences, and as we ascend and shed our old selves, with love, and as we embody spirit in this lifetime, which we are all doing, we become the standards for others of the new divine human.

5 thoughts on “Perfectionism in Spirituality

  1. Loved your article! Thank you, it’s what I’ve been “preaching” for a few years. It’s nice to find a like mind.

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  3. As a perfectionist for years, I soon realized that my perfectionism was also manifesting itself as I embarked on the spiritual path. If only I meditated longer, or read more, I would find the answer….thank you for this uplifting article. The music is very soothing and your voice is beautiful.

    • thank you for your compliment Larissa, and for your candid response. I still have to catch myself from time to time because I see that I am trying to prove worthiness in order to integrate with my soul.


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