We’ve all heard the expression, ‘getting in touch with your inner child’, but, what does that really mean? In my generation, we were taught that ‘children should be seen, and not heard.’ Our enthusiasm was often suppressed by our guardians who were themselves suppressed. Now it is a new generation. The ones coming in now are so much more confident. They know who they are, and they are not willing to compromise who they are so easily. They often seem strong-willed, but in a sense they need to be to operate in an environment that doesn’t understand them so much. You can say they radiate a spiritual confidence.
And so do you! As lightworkers/wayshowers, you are a lot like these young ones. You radiate love and harmony. (Even on your darkest days.) Children especially are attracted to you for this reason. In a way, you are the ones who paved the way for the younger generation. Through lifetimes of your contributions in expanding your consciousness, you have made it so much easier for them to come here and live as their authentic selves. You are recognizing the importance of the child in you more and more as you become more playful. You are understanding that it’s not about hard work and sacrifice for family, or laboring at a job that robs your soul, just to survive. You know better. You are finding it harder to be in a job just for money. You’re not easily seduced by a material world alone. You know that you are here for more expansive reasons. You are listening more and more to your Inner Child. You can’t compromise yourself anymore. If you want to play more, you are heeding the call even if others don’t understand. You care less and less what others think about you. You are becoming your priority and your own authority. You’re not losing yourself in other people’s worlds. You’re spending more time alone but, you’re not so lonely. You’re beginning to like your own company even better than anyone else’s. You find yourself wanting to have more quiet time, to just be, and then the urge to create something emerges without effort. As much as you are there for the child within, he is there for you. She is your connection to your God self.
Cherish Your Inner Child
Cherish your inner child. He cherishes you. She adores you. When you find yourself frustrated with something outside yourself, when you feel pulled to do something that’s not in your heart to do, if at all possible, don’t “power through it.” If a flesh and blood child or your biological child were here and crying and scared would you send him to his room and ignore him? Then don’t do that to your inner child either. Don’t do that to yourself.
I wasn’t listening to my inner child. She wanted to be with me, to play, to create. But, I ignored her. The signs were there. I didn’t trust them. So I allowed a situation into my life that wasn’t what I truly wanted. I had an “accident” which was my wake up call to listen and honor my needs. But, you don’t have to do it so extremely. Just pay attention. Have the courage to say no when you don’t want to do something or yes to what thrills you. You’re not here to work and sacrifice and struggle. You’re here to develop a beautiful relationship with yourself – with your soul, and your Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine, and with your inner child. You’re here to feel good and to create your heart’s desires. That is what the ascension is all about.
We worry that we’re going to go wild and abandon our family, and become totally irresponsible if we begin paying attention to our inner child. Nothing could be further from the truth. In fact, ignoring the child within can lead to illness, depression, and such events as the mid life crisis: you know, the classic acting out scenario: The red sports car and the affair. I notice people who are on strict diets will sneak an entire package of cookies or a supersize french fries and devour them all. They will binge because they systematically deprived their inner child of treats along the way. Often these diets are an exercise in self deprivation which we know doesn’t work very well. The same is true for depriving our inner child their play time.
Listen to the more subtle warnings before you find yourself going for the sport car. Are you feeling unsettled? Are you bored? Are you burying yourself more and more in T.V., the web, alcohol, food, sex? Are you numbing your feelings? Do you find yourself with others who seem “needy”? They are simply a mirror for your inner child who needs you.
The wounded child.
Many people are carrying within them a wounded child. The feelings often start in childhood when their needs were ignored by parents or caregivers. However most people are not consciously aware of this even though the inner wounded child often drives their experiences in life, often recklessly! For example, someone who feels like they are not completely happy without a mate or who feels abandoned by a wife or husband or lover, is probably not in touch with their wounded inner child. Instead of allowing themselves to explore the feelings of abandonment for instance – they avoid the deep feelings of grieving and sadness Instead they focus on their love interest, trying harder to keep them in their lives. Or bury themselves in work, drugs, alcohol. If they don’t face the inner child who feels abandoned and ‘re-parent ‘them with love and self-care, they will just perpetuate the cycle, often finding themselves in another relationship in which they are ‘abandoned’. They are not conscious of the feelings driving their behavior.
The root cause could be not feeling worthy of love. Often they can’t seem to let go of the person that they believe is the source of their love and safety, even as adults. But the irony is, they want to avoid the pain of the abandoned child within, but ultimately they are face-to-face with hurt, because they attract situations and relationships in which they are “abandoned. ” On a soul level, they draw these situations to get to the bottom of the issue. Even within the relationships. they enjoy the intensity of feelings, romance, yearning to be with the lover or friend, perhaps overlaying them with qualities they don’t have. It becomes a kind of fantasy world in which they give themselves permission to feel. But they often mistake the intensity for love. Even the sense of hurt is at least a feeling! Feelings are energy that will be expressed one way or another. They will not remain suppressed. They have a life of their own. Just because they can’t be seen it doesn’t mean they don’t exist. Not only do they exist, they drive experience, sometimes quite recklessly.
People think they are “managing” their emotions. They believe they have things “under control” until they ‘suddenly’ get into an accident, or ‘out of the blue’ they get sick or get a disease, or their wife leaves them, or they have a nervous breakdown. All of which are appropriate, for the soul needed it to get their attention, A kind of “wake up call. “
Sometimes they need to break the spell to break the cycle. At the core is a feeling of not being worthy of love. It’s a judgment, which can be released. Once we face the child, who feels lost, scared, and abandoned, we can embrace her, and be there for her. Then this naturally transforms him into the joyful, playful, trusting, magical being that carries the God seed for us. He is to be cherished and honored. He is our creativity, our joy, our reason for being here.
She is so willing to playfully guide us to our heart’s desires. Within her is the knowing that all is possible. That you can have everything you dream of. That you can create worlds. But, she needs you to support and protect her, to give her a Safe Space to play and to create. Our greatest inventions were created in this manner. It was the childlike qualities of the inventors, their imaginations, that were the major factors in their creations. Logic was a small part of the equation.
Your Connection With God
Allowing the child out to play is the greatest gift you can give yourself in this lifetime. If you have been ignoring him, he may try harder to get your attention. You will never regret giving your inner child the love and attention she deserves. The path of the light worker isn’t necessarily the easiest but it’s the most rewarding, because we get to ultimately have it all – the joy, the creativity, and if we so desire, health, wealth and loving relationships. But it all begins within. Now go and play!
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