Are you loyal to your spouse, friends, mate? Your job? Church? Country? God? How loyal are you to yourself?
If you are reading this, you are an ascending human, here to fall in love with yourself. You said you would do whatever it takes. You wanted, more than anything to feel spirit in your life.
At one point you thought you just wanted some improvements in your old life: a bigger home, more money, a nicer car, better health. And, while these are all byproducts of enlightenment, if you choose, they are not really why you are here. You are here to become your own resource for love, for comfort, and for joy.
You are literally letting go of your old lifetime. Do you sometimes wonder why you can’t remember things from the past? That’s part of the plan. You may be finding that those you felt attached to, you no longer feel that way about. You may find yourself in a situation or a relationship that you no longer resonate with, and you’re wanting to release it. That is also part of the process. You begin to feel that your loyalty may have been toward the other, but now, loyalty towards self is taking priority. There may be pain and guilt involved in wanting to move on, but the voice is getting louder. You can no longer ignore it. You need to stop cheating on yourself.
When we compromise ourselves, and are involved with people or situations that just do not feel right, we are betraying ourselves. We are living a double life, and we will not find inner peace. Much can be learned from the relationship or situation. They are just a mirror for us. Does someone (It could even be a pet) seem needy of our attention? Then, what are we ignoring within ourselves that needs our attention? So it’s not just about leaving the job or the relationship, it’s dissolving the patterns. It’s allowing the love from spirit into our bodies and our lives. There really should be no struggle involved. Just a slowing down and listening. Listen to the voice inside, to the feelings, and to your body. If your loyalty is not towards you, where it needs to be if you were moving into Ascension, you will slow down your enlightenment.
It doesn’t even mean you need to give up your friendships or jobs or loved ones, but it does mean saying yes to YOU! Saying yes to being your own source for your joy, for being your own best friend. Saying yes to your physical body. Taking good care of it, loving it, both physically and energetically.
Small steps at first, because it is not always easy to make yourself your priority. Deciding that your opinion about you is really the only valid one, even if the other opinions come from authority figures or a loved one. It doesn’t matter. True freedom is validating self. This isn’t about self-esteem or assertiveness training. This is the raison d’être of the entire Ascension process!
In fact, it’s not even about focusing on anyone out there in your life. It’s really about you and you! And, if you are like me, I truly do enjoy people. I love laughing and engaging in a certain amount of light conversation. But, I am becoming more discerning about who I will spend quality time with. I am more and more comfortable in my own skin, and when I am in a situation that does not feel right, the alarms go off. It’s not even subtle anymore. I don’t get easily seduced. Except when I am feeling a little lonely, or vulnerable. Then I am more open to attracting some unwanted company. But it’s not about putting our guard up either. It’s just being aware. Check in on yourself regularly. If something feels off, just give yourself time away. Sometimes we are picking up on others’ needs and wants and take them on as ours. I’ve done this in relationships. As I spent more and more time with the other, I began to feel I needed to be involved with them, but when I got back into my space, I felt differently. If you’re used to shifting your focus outside of yourself, you will easily pick up others’ issues and needs, even to the point of becoming what they want you to become. The pay off for you is feeling loved… not feeling so alone, because at certain stages of this Ascension process, one can feel very alone. But, the attention you receive is because you’re not being loyal to yourself but giving into the needs of another. In the world around us, this is considered a typical relationship.
But how about the relationship with yourself. It’s time to come back home: to gather up all the parts and pieces of you that have felt lost and wounded. Invite them back to the space you have created within your heart and belly. That safe space where you are allowing spirit, the expansive and eternal YOU.
Start small, taking real, physical steps to show your human self that it is not alone in all of this, that it can depend upon you to be there.
We are taught to find love, approval, and validation outside ourselves. And we were required to compromise ourselves in the process. It created a situation in which we did not know ourselves because we were so busy ‘out there’ trying to prove worthiness. The Ascension process is all about letting all of that go. It’s all about coming back home to ourselves.
And then, when we are overflowing with love for self, we can share the overflow with others, not hold their hands or take on their issues. Just sharing who we are. It takes courage and trust to face the void, that space where we are not playing victim or caretaker, but we are not yet sure who we are outside of that role, or where we are going. It can feel quite lonely, quite uncomfortable. It’s like the kids leaving home and mom feels lost without being a mother. Who can she take care of Now? Who the hell is she now?
Very few volunteered for this process because it’s not for the timid. It requires trust in the face of the unknown. There’s no manual, no how to. Of course, the road will be much easier for those who follow, but we are in the forefront and are often in the dark. But, we are developing our inner guidance, our spiritual GPS. And just remember, it’s not about pushing, just make the choice in your heart and allow circumstances to unfold, taking inspired action.
If these concepts of being an independent, sovereign being who is in love with self were already mainstream, wouldn’t we see it reflected in the media: on TV and in the movies? I don’t know about you, but I am tired of the boy meets girl, romance, relationships, family values shows on TV and in the movies. Have you seen any about a woman who is unattached, loves her life, and is self fulfilled? Sure she has her challenges, but at the end of the day, she’s her own person. One show that comes to mind is “Murder She Wrote’ from years ago. It was about a writer, amateur sleuth, and independent woman who was unattached, not dating anyone and loved her life. Now I know why I liked that show: it was groundbreaking.
And, so are we. We are breaking new ground. We are the new role models for the self loving, self fulfilled human. But, until enough of us are there, we will be stuck with these old energy shows, books and movies to entertain us. We are the new breed. The new, balanced human. Own that, and take some inspired action from that place, and watch as your life transforms.
So saying yes to yourself, not in anger or defiance against anything or anyone else, just in knowingness that you are Divine. You are God, also! No power involved, just an awareness. Trust that this understanding will come.
One More Thing
If you see all others outside yourself as aspects of you, even the ones that annoy you, you will understand that as you choose for you, for yourself, you also help them. It may appear they are lost to you – for example a relationship, but look past the human mind, and you will begin to see that we are all volunteers. We are creating our own reality, and they put this experience there for their growth and self-love also.
We are all sovereign. It is just that some have not yet awakened to that realization. So, as you choose for yourself, as you choose joy and as you choose freedom from the opinion of others, you assist them. You become an example for them to choose for themselves the same.
This is the most loving, caring act on your part. Oh, they will probably not see it initially and they will try to pull you back, making you the bad guy. But, you can’t have it both ways. You can’t choose for you, and make them happy. Their human self-will protest. You’re not playing the game with them anymore. What gives you the right to feel such joy in the midst of pain and suffering, they ask? They may even get more manipulative and try harder to pull you back. You understand that. You’ve been there. You were once unfulfilled, and played victim. So you do have compassion.
But dear friends, aren’t we all tired of that old game? Take a deep breath………..fill up on Spirit……….. take another deep breath…………
Now, choose for YOU.