As we continue downloading light into ourselves and into our DNA, we are becoming a new person on every level. We are beginning to recharge our own battery, no longer finding outside sources adequate. This is profound. We used to reach out in the old energy for others to help us feel loved and cared for. Now in the new energy we are becoming the sovereign beings we were meant to be – no longer relying on others for love, comfort, and care. Consequently, it’s difficult relating to those who are still looking outside themselves for love and fulfillment.
As we become self fulfilled, we are no longer comfortable being anyone else’s source of love, comfort or care. It simply doesn’t feel right to us. Initially, it will cause others to feel left behind, let down, abandoned and betrayed. We are not going to become more of our true selves without others noticing. But, as long as we don’t react to their frustration, and just keep our own balance, there will be very little drama. Reacting, responding, and engaging others will just fuel the fire. Remember, the law of attraction is always operating. So, to focus on issues within ourselves or others, to beat the drum of “They still need me” and “They can’t take care of themselves emotionally” will just expand the drama and keep everyone stuck.
Instead, it’s wise to remind yourself that they have everything they need to be their sovereign self. And, it’s not your job to prop them up. Trust your feelings here. If it feels off to be there for them emotionally, trust those feelings. They are telling you the other person is coming from lack in that moment, and giving into them will just keep them stuck. As we love ourselves more unconditionally, we understand that we don’t need to be validated by anyone but ourselves. We can then begin to love others unconditionally, knowing that they are their own resource, and also that they are just where they need to be. If they are not where you think they should be, it would be wise to release your agenda. But it also doesn’t mean you need to give in to their needs.
You are demonstrating a love to them that they aren’t quite familiar with. A love that doesn’t judge, a love that isn’t conditional, and a love that is self-sufficient. It may not even feel like love to them, or to you initially. In fact, it may feel selfish… Where’s the sacrifice, where’s the loyalty? Where’s the hand holding?
The Ties That Bind
Relationships are the hardest hit in the new energy because there are so many emotional cords and ties, some ancient, with others. But, in the new energy, the shift is from focusing on others to focusing on self. And if you are reading this, you are far along enough to understand that this does not mean that we do not love others. It means we are becoming the new, balanced, Divine human, who loves self enough just as they are, and who is open to inviting spirit into their body and their life. But, it requires relinquishing victim mode, and, we can slip into victim mode when we give up a part of ourselves, no matter how small, to please anyone else. We are here, as the advanced guard, in a different capacity, no longer caretaker, no longer victim, and it will feel odd at first. It will feel unloving because love was so misunderstood. And, I can’t stress enough it’s not about being perfect in all this. There will be fumbling, there will be setbacks, there will be tears, wanting to go back to the old way, because there was a certain comfort there.
But, dear friends, we can’t really go back. Haven’t we tried? And, we are tasting more and more love from our own spirit, so that to go back is less enticing than ever.
So, if someone seems like they need you to recharge their battery, just trust your inner guidance. Do they truly need a jump-start, or can you trust that they have their own Divine recharging system? Ask yourself, am I truly helping this person, or am I just using them as a distraction? The new consciousness leaders and teachers are not here to be the martyrs, to be the Mother Teresas. Even if you are a counselor or a healing facilitator, you are understanding that the client must be ready to change and there must be no fostering of dependency upon you.
This is a profound shift from the old tools and old ways of helping others. No more taking on their issues, and processing them. Not if you want to move fully into the new energy. The shift is upon us. What we do with it is up to us. We can use the new tools or we can still try pulling in the old, outmoded ways and methods and patterns and keep ourselves stuck. The new energy is quite different, with new dynamics, new ways, and a joy and love that we could not even imagine.