Most people live life on the surface. They may appear to have various experiences, but really their depth of knowing themselves, of knowing their soul is limited to perhaps going to church or philosophizing about spirituality. Most people have not yet given permission to dive deep. To go for the experience. They go just so far, and then they stop themselves. That’s fine. Most people are not ready. It’s simply not their time.
But you have given permission. You have dived in and have gone deep. You have the scars to prove it! You went through some of the deepest and darkest of waters, not sure if you would emerge alive. You hit bottom, and it felt like there was a weight holding you down. But you discovered that fighting the water was futile. You began to just allow it to naturally bring you back up to the surface. So each time you dove in after that, it was not as scary, because you knew that even if you hit the bottom you would just float back up.
And that’s because you began to trust that you were not doing it alone. That you had your eternal self right there. And with that part of you that is eternal, you discovered that the water held hidden treasures beneath its surface.
If you are holding energies for someone…serving as their ‘lifeline,’ you are not serving yourself or them. It’s like having one end of a rope tied around your waist and the other end tied to them. They want to dive into the ocean, but not too deep, just deep enough to make them feel alive. But then when they had their fill of the waves and undercurrent, they want you to pull them back out.
So they never dive all the way in. And so nothing really changes. They keep diving into the water, going so deep and then you pull them out.
Obviously both people are getting something from the experience or they wouldn’t be doing it. To use an example: You bail someone out financially when they get to the point of not having enough money to pay their bills. Maybe this has been going on for years. Perhaps they are playing out their story over and over….not trusting themself or life to support them. Perhaps putting their trust in a bad relationship. But they will need to dive more deeply into their story in order to come out the others side of it, and that may involve some difficult experiences.
Maybe you are trying to ‘protect’ them from that type of pain. Or maybe the relationship is based on you being their rescuer, whether it’s a financial bail-out or an emotional one. Perhaps there is someone who periodically seeks you out in order to feel connected back to themselves. Maybe they consistently engage in denial and drama as a distraction for diving deeper into their own feelings of abandonment or fear. But when the drama gets to a point that is driving them crazy, they come to you and get the emotional bail out. And as long as you keep doing that for them, they will never discover their own inner wisdom. As long as you provide them with the nurturing and energetic support, they will never have to get it from themselves. They will be missing out on discovering their own hidden treasures.
That is not to say that as you release them energetically they will not go off and find someone else to feed from. They may not be ready to dive deep just yet. But that’s not your concern.
And maybe you are not ready to release them either. That’s O.K. You will know when it’s time. You will feel it, and you will also feel more clear about who you are. And who they are. And for women especially, you will begin to get more clear that your role is not to nurture others or make them feel more comfortable at the expense of your own joy. You are letting go of that galactic story. It’s one of the reasons you came here.
Your presence here is potent, and not everyone will appreciate you. Because as you take back your mastery it radiates a light that illuminates places not only within you that were not comfortable with self-love, but also in others. But you have gone through the darkest of the dark, and dove deeper than anyone still playing the 3D game of victimhood. You know that it’s the only way to your freedom. There is no one or nothing that could have spared you the experience. You tried to resist it, deny it and bargain with it. Until you just gave yourself permission to go for it.
You dove deep, and you didn’t drown. You came back up and left so much of your fear behind. And the fear that is left you do not allow to interfere with your joy.
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