Traditionally spirituality and sensuality were polar opposites. Spiritual practices for the most part didn’t involve the sensual nature of the physical body, and of life itself. In fact, the body was seen as impure, as base, and as something that just got in the way of being spiritual. It was seen as something to ‘transcend’. It seemed higher spiritual ideals did not include enjoying a sensual lifestyle! Of savoring life through all the physical senses.
But, embodied enlightenment is all about being very sensual. Our soul is all about sensuality. The ability of a soul to express that sensuality through a physical body is incredible. And it’s one reason we are here. As souls we wanted to dive deep into the physical experience. Now we have an opportunity to rekindle a passion for life, but not by creating artificial passions, but simply by allowing our soul to meld with our body, mind and heart. We can’t feel the passion we so much want to feel otherwise. We won’t want to continue being here. What’s the point of being here if we are not living fully?
Being sensual has nothing to do with sexuality or gender. (Although it includes sexuality and the sexual organs) Or with age. But, for women especially (and for men who embody the feminine attributes) their sensuality has been a big issue. In other posts I have addressed how life was not safe, especially past lives, when women allowed their sensuality to be expressed. They were disrespected, and even killed for it. We even see it now in some cultures where women can be killed for a modicum of that expression.
How many of us, in this lifetime, have been accused of flirting, of leading someone on, of seducing them when we were simply expressing our joy and sensual nature? Perhaps we were just being friendly, open, maybe we were dancing to sensual music.
Perhaps we were not interested in a sexual connection but it was misinterpreted as such.
So we felt guilt, perhaps shame. So much anger was suppressed. But what we didn’t understand was that the world, in spite of its strides in the name of women’s freedom, still for the most part sees the female as not only a second class citizen, but as far as her sensual nature is concerned, perceives her as an adolescent boy would.
So feeling less than honored for expressing fully our sensual nature is something we carry in our DNA.
THE HEART-A COMFORT ZONE
In order to feel safe women would suppress their sensuality, and reside primarily in the heart. An open heart is the foundation of love, but from that space women could feel the wounds of the male energies, and they could soothe that male by emotionally supporting him.
We have paid a hefty price for that. Carrying the burdens of our fellow man in our hearts is bad enough, but even in our bodies, so much pain resides that is not even ours. All the while denying our sacred sensuality. Believing our service to mankind is to nurture, to soothe and comfort, and hold the hands of the walking wounded…to be the mothers of the planet!
THE MIND-ANOTHER COMFORT ZONE
The mind is the biggest comfort zone. After all, isn’t that where most of humanity lives? In the mental sphere? So we take refuge there, thinking about things, trying to figure out our issues. Another way to avoid being in our body and feeling sensual.
If we are to move into our freedom, we can’t continue in these self-sabotaging behaviors.
We are giving birth to a new woman within us. But we do not need to endure the labor pains any longer. The pain we feel, emotional and physical are no longer a prerequisite.
But, we ask, if we let go of the pain, and claim our joy, our sensual birthright, what price will we pay? More abuse, more disrespect? “I think I’ll just play it safe here in my mind, thinking about all of this, and just keep holding energies in my heart and my body for those who clearly can’t do it for themselves!”
Even the pain becomes a comfort zone.
It’s understandable that we would not want to repeat our history, in which we did not feel safe for being fully ourselves. But as you invite your soul into your body, you will feel the solution immediately. Even if at first it’s for short periods of time. You will feel safe. You will feel your passion. You will feel an exquisite joy for just being here. A joy that truly transcends your history, your age, and your gender.
And as you know, others may end up not liking you because of the light you carry, because you chose your freedom and are passionate about just being here, in your body. But at the same time, you are not trying to push your light onto them, so they will not push you back. The more love for self you embody, the more safe you feel, because there is really nowhere anyone can get their hooks into you. You are not putting up a shield, or blocking energies from others, you are simply not responding to them.
Many people, both men and women, are saying that they are feeling more sexual energies in their body during this transformation, and for some that is confusing, even disturbing. They are not comfortable with being both sensual and spiritual. They are not accepting that they are one and the same.
Have you noticed that many of the physical imbalances are experienced, especially for women, in the lower parts of the body? The solar plexus and below? Emotions of fear, anger, guilt, shame all reside in the lower chakras. They are the most stuck energies. But there’s nothing you need to figure out. Most of these are inherited…they go way back into your history and your lineage as a woman. Expressing the feelings in a safe way when they come up, especially anger, is important.
ENLIGHTENMENT IS A FULL-BODIED EXPERIENCE
And just because you are a woman in her 50s or 60s or older, it doesn’t automatically mean you are less sensual, or that you now are required to take on the role of mother to others. You can be anyone or anything you want to be. You need no one’s permission. Enjoy yourself! Be selfish! Be free! Eat whatever you want. Savor your food, without guilt, without worry. Savor your life, without holding back. Take up space. Keep loving yourself, even if it looks selfish to others. Express your sensuality. Remind yourself you are not doing this alone. That other women and many men are in the process of letting go of pain and suffering, no longer embracing it as a tradition of being in service to others. And nurturing others is not true love or service, especially at the expense of our own joy.
The time has never been better than now to move out of your comfort zones of the head and the heart, and into a full-bodied, head to toe, unbridled joy for life. So embrace your sacred sensuality!
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