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The Friendship

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Art by Maria Chambers

Alona and Cristina had been close friends for over fifteen years.  Actually, for lifetimes. They knew they were soul mates from the moment they met.  Over the years they shared the highs and the lows, the joys and the sorrows of life.  They were there for one another through thick and thin.

At one point neither could imagine life on the planet without the other.  Their friendship ebbed and flowed over the years.  Cristina moved out of the area a couple of times.  Alona felt a deep sadness to see her go.  But they would invariably stay in touch, wherever life took them.

But, within the past couple of years,  Alona was sensing something happening.  Her own life was changing in deep and unexpected ways.  In ways that she could not even share adequately with Cristina.  It was beginning to feel like their friendship was changing.  She found it more difficult to connect with her friend in the way she used to.

She would have recurring dreams of trying to call Cristina by phone but couldn’t make the connection.  In the dreams Cristina’s cell phone had poor or no reception.  And interestingly, in the waking state, that was true.  It was always difficult to hear Cristina’s voice over her phone.  Alona would joke with her friend and ask her to please upgrade to an iPhone!

Cristina was slowly moving out of a series of toxic relationships.  Alona had done so herself and was happy to see her friend choosing more self-love.  Alona knew that now the real work would begin.  Cristina would now have to go through her own awakening.

But Alona sensed that her friend still had a way to go, to allow her soul to be a part of her life.

Cristina was a beautiful soul and had much wisdom.  But it became clear to Alona that Cristina was not ready to face herself and her deeper feelings.  Alona had gone through her dark night of the soul, and knew that it was a necessary step toward self-love and self realization.

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IT’S STILL LOVE

Alona also realized that she and her friend had relied upon each other. They were holding an energy for each other.  It served them both, but now it was time to set that dependency free. Alona knew that it would make her very sad, but she had to let the relationship go. She knew it was time for both of them to become the sovereign women they were meant to be.  She knew in her soul that it would be painful, but it was based in love.

Yet she found it hard to do.  How can she just end this lifetimes-long relationship?

Over time Cristina sensed that Alona was not invested in the friendship like before.  She thought she had done something to upset Alona.  But Alona reassured Cristina she had done nothing wrong.  Alona explained that her life seems to have taken her to a radically different place, and that now she needed to devote herself to the relationship with her soul.

At first Christina said she understood and she just wanted her friend to be happy.  But after a few days, she wrote her friend, and was very angry.  She felt Alona’s behavior was passive-aggressive and that she had shut the door on her friendship, and that they were supposed to be soul mates.

Alona felt very guilty.  What had she done?  She felt she had betrayed her dearest friend.  Especially now that Cristina had already lost two important people in her life.  How could a true friend act this way?  Isn’t a friend someone who is there for you in your time of such need?

Alona thought about the situation deeply for a few days.  She wanted to write to her friend.  Or should she just call her up, invite her over?  Maybe they could talk about it.  After all, they talked about things for hours together in the past.

But none of that felt right to Alona.  In her heart she felt that this was the right thing to do, first for herself, and also for her friend.

Alona began to feel sad and fearful and filled with guilt.  How could this be, she wondered, for she felt so good about her decision.  She felt clear.  Then all this guilt.  What if her friend is really hurt by this and never recovers?  What if Alona made a terrible mistake and has lost the best friend she ever had?  She remembered all the sweet and intimate moments in which they both shared their experiences…their challenges with their respective relationships with family and with the men in their lives.  They had many good laughs and tears together.

A KNOWINGNESS

Art by Maria Chambers

Then she felt a knowingness come over her.  Alona’s biggest issue in this lifetime has been guilt.  And Cristina’s  was feeling abandoned…not feeling wanted or loved.  She and her friend spent many hours discussing that with each other.

So here was a beautiful opportunity for both women to acknowledge their emotions to themselves.  Now was the opportunity for Cristina, if she chooses, to face her feelings of betrayal and abandonment – to recognize that she is not a victim and finally allow her soul to love her, acknowledge her and see her worth and magnificence.

Now was the opportunity for Alona to recognize the guilt for what it is.  To see that it is a learned response which allowed others to make her responsible for their pain or their joy.  So guilt came in as a punishment for following her heart, and doing what she felt was best for herself.  Now was the opportunity for Alona to see she has a choice to not feel guilt.  Now came the opportunity to see that Cristina is not a victim of any betrayal or abandonment, and was bringing this experience to herself just as much as Alona was.

And maybe in time the two friends can reunite,  But for now they have the opportunity to move into a new and profound place of self-love.  Of self-discovery.  Of self-reliance.  And  true Mastery.

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Author: soulsoothinsounds

Our lives are like great paintings or great pieces of music. If we focus on all the technical 'imperfections' we will miss the true beauty of the work. We won't see, or rather, FEEL the essence and spirit of the masterpiece. I no longer identify myself as a writer, artist, or musician. Rather I express my divinity, and my humanity through the media of art, music and writing. I began this blog because I wanted to give voice to my experiences and insights, and I wrote for myself primarily. Six years later, I am still writing for myself, and I am discovering that my experiences are not personal but universal - galactic even. And now I am more sure than ever that I am a new consciousness teacher, as each of you are. The way we teach is by going through the very human experiences, and as we ascend and shed our old selves, with love, and as we embody spirit in this lifetime, which we are all doing, we become the standards for others of the new divine human.

5 thoughts on “The Friendship

  1. Wow…what a synchronicity! I just published about friendship and betrayal. I also just left a comment in one of your previous posts that gave me the final nudge to publish my post. And now, this, talking about some of the insights that I had gained from that friendship breakup which I have yet to share — and I’m sure that it was the Universe nudging me even before I let any doubts overcome me again. Once more, I can’t thank you enough, Maria!!! ❤ ❤ ❤ Much Love to you, & Brightest of Blessings!!!

    • Hah….wow…Nadine, .can’t make this stuff up!!! It’s amazing for sure. Its so important to trust our choices and our own wisdom. It’s too easy to begin doubting ourselves. And it seems relationships have been the most difficult during our transformation. And I also am learning more about myself and others through releasing relationships that no longer serve me. Not easy. Certainly not for the faint of heart. Much love to you fellow pioneer.🌹💕💕

      • Amazing indeed, Maria. Sure can’t make this stuff up!!! 😀 Trust is my core issue. That’s why I easily doubt myself. And yes, relationships have been the most challenging yet transformative for us, eh? Again, thanks much for your beautiful energy!!! ❤ 🙂 ❤

  2. Whoa!! My Maria, you just wrote my story!! But for me this long life best friend is my sister…..it has been beyond hard to say the very least! I’ve released my guilt, and she is working very hard to release her feelings of abandonment. It is getting much easier now for us both, and a newfound friendship is blossoming!
    Thank you so much for this, as always, you are right on time/target!!
    ❤️ Ya!

    • My Annette, yes, it’s a timely topic. And apparently it can manifest with all types of relationships. Family, friends, and everything in between. And kudos on releasing your guilt. A big one, especially for a woman. I’m happy for you and your sister. And because you have both done the inner work, you have set free your ancestors. You have freed up your bloodline. The women in your family, alive and deceased, are thanking you. (And the men, too) 🌹💕

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