Mothers and Daughters

Mom and me, early 1950’s

I felt my mother softly nudging me to write this post.  She passed away decades ago but is always around me.

I wanted to share with you women especially my relationship to my mother. It’s a relationship that most women have with their mothers. A relationship that goes back a long, long way throughout many lifetimes. Like most relationships with mothers and daughters ours was not as close as I would have liked it to be. I did not realize how much my mother was struggling. How oppressed she felt by her circumstances and the patriarchal world she found herself within.  She too was internalizing her own mother’s grief and struggle. On down the ancestral line.

My father was very dominating and controlling of me, and my mother never came to my support.  She was in such fear of being rejected if she did so. Of being unsupported by her husband, my father.

Consequently she felt trapped, and unable to express herself fully.

So our relationship was not very deep. But I could always feel her sadness. And her frustration. It showed up in her as diabetes and heart disease. Years after my mother passed away I had not thought much about her until I saw a photograph of her that my brother posted on Facebook. It was her standing in our kitchen in her late 70s.  Every time I looked at it I broke into tears. I felt a deep grieving I had never felt for her before. At that moment I recognized that I was carrying my mother’s sadness with me all my life. Just as she was carrying her mother’s sadness with her.

I never realized how much that impacted my life and my body. I knew it was time to face the deep grieving for my mother and for myself.

It was a grieving that all women feel on some level because they don’t believe they can be fully themselves in this world. It’s a feeling of betraying their mothers if they do express themselves fully. On a level that is unconscious most women believe that they will be betraying their gender including their own mothers if they are fully themselves. If they surpassed their mother in terms of their personal freedom.

I am not talking about just a social or political type of freedom, I am talking about a personal freedom of the heart. The freedom to not carry the wounds of humanity. Because Everywoman in her DNA believes that she must do that in service to humanity

Our enlightenment requires that we let go of the old role we have been playing as women. For some of us there is a great deal of resistance to letting that go because a part of us feels that we need to carry that pain in order to honor our mothers and their pain.

This is why many of us incarnated as women in this lifetime. We wanted to be the first to create the new sovereign hearts of women. Starting with ourselves. We wanted to set ourselves free and consequently set our mothers and their mothers free on down the ancestral line.

I can tell you that my own mother who is now on the other side of the veil stands very close to me most of the time and is very proud of what I am doing. She has decided not to reincarnate until she sees that I have released the role that she and other women have been playing for such a long time.

She sees me and a few other brave women as having the capability to be the new sovereign and enlightened women.

Art by Maria Chambers

So if you are a daughter whose mother is still alive on this side of the veil, know that what you are doing here is of benefit to your mother. But even if there’s that mother and daughter dynamic going on that may be slightly dysfunctional, or very dysfunctional, just know that on a deep level your mother wants you to become enlightened.

She wants you to let go of your role of sympathy and empathy towards others. It did not serve her very well and it does not serve you right now either.

She does not want you to use her as an excuse to not walk into your freedom in this lifetime.

And if your mother has passed, feel into her. Do you think she really wants you to continue playing safe and playing small if that is what you were doing? No, she wants you to be fully yourself. She wants you to shine your light. She wants you to be free.

Can you grasp the significance of what you are doing here on the planet at this time as a woman? If this resonates with you then you are ready to step into your sovereignty. You are ready to be fully yourself with no reservations. No shame. And no apologies to anyone. And if you have a daughter or daughters, what a magnificent role model you are for them.

How incredible to have a mother as someone who is courageous enough to love herself first. Especially in a world in which that is seen and has been seen as less than virtuous especially for a woman. What a legacy you are passing down.

So it is time, daughters and mothers, to let go of the old and to allow in the new. It is now safe for you to be fully and completely yourself.

Art by Maria Chambers

And one last thing. Hopefully you have been reparenting the little girl within you. Hopefully you have been giving her attention and love. Perhaps the attention and love that you always longed for from your own mother. If there’s any nurturing to be done dear woman, it is the nurturing of your own inner child. That part of you who wants to feel free to play and explore. Perhaps she never felt that freedom as a child in your mother or father’s arms. Perhaps she never felt safe. Now you can provide that safe space for her. And the rewards will be that she will create for you a renewed sparkle and enthusiasm for your life.

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