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You Can’t Skip The Middle Step


Art by Maria Chambers

As we become more OURSELVES we are creating a safe space, first for ourselves, and then for others, if they are open.  The safe space is created by accepting ourselves and all of our emotions. Being o.k. with just where we are at emotionally and physically. No, we don’t have to love it, because lots of it can be uncomfortable at times. But allowing it to be is the elixir for change and transformation.

We are not trying to be a better human, or trying to improve who we are. The TEN WAYS TO A BETTER YOU book is passé. What you may consider your worst qualities are not at all. They are just part of being human.

Many would be shocked hearing that.  They would say we are uncaring. We would be considered part of the problem, not the solution to the woes of the world.

You should strive to be more SELFLESS, they contend.  An honorable and good person considers the welfare of others first. And then maybe they would cite the current President of the U.S. and his administration as the perfect example of SELFISH gone horribly wrong.

But what they don’t understand is that the person who ascended to the most powerful position in the world, who is creating such chaos and stomping on the human and social rights of so many….is himself a product of self-hate.

What so many see as too much self-love is not at all. It’s the splitting of the heart and the mind. It is the inability to see value in the self, including all the emotions of sadness, and fear. So he has no choice, he believes, but to find that value outside himself….and because he equates value with power, he asks, “how powerful can I become?”

And he comes from a culture that values powerful men in terms of money, status, fame, stoicism, aggression, and sexual prowess. He doesn’t even need to embody those attributes, but only to fool others into believing he embodies them.

So he lives a one-dimensional life. There is not much depth, little compassion and he’s not really even that interesting.  Consequently, he believes that he has to project the illusion that he is the smartest, the best, and the biggest winner.

All very self-serving.

But one could say that on a soul level he is serving others by exemplifying the mind as the KING GONE MAD.  The imbalanced patriarchy personified.  At least to those who see through his charade.

So he has managed to become the focus of a tremendous amount of attention, which he craves like opium.

But like an addict, it’s never enough, and the next fix has to be bigger, and more dangerous.

Some find him fascinating.  Well, even that quality is manufactured, not real. All show, not much go. But it is a fascinating study of how powerful the mind can be, and how it can attract so much dissonance. Since like attracts like, it’s the perfect storm.  Those who harbor similar attributes are enabled and emboldened.

He gives permission with his own example for the other self-haters to hate others more freely and openly.  Like the White Nationalists carrying an array of flags expressing an ‘Us versus Them’ ideology.

Some try to cover up the contempt toward others who are different thus a threat, by the convenient  use of ‘religious freedom’ that’s been given so much press of late.  Or by claiming it’s in the Bible.

Most of these people are not going to self-reflect, and most certainly not own their fear and their feelings of vulnerability.

Those who witness this troubling behavior contend that these terrorizers and predators are not loving others and are acting selfishly.

And that is true. But those who rile against the haters believe the solution is for the offenders to become better people. While that is also true, they can’t be expected to skip the middle step.

They can’t go from hate-driven White Nationalist or gay-bashing religious zealot to compassionate human.  At least, not easily or quickly.

They have to go through that infernal middle step, the avoid-at-all-costs step….SELF-LOVE. That’s the hardest thing for a human to do. They will do everything and anything to avoid it. And that’s because it requires them to strip themselves bare and look at parts of themselves they believe are ugly, and totally reprehensible. And to accept those parts of themselves.

It requires of them to be so vulnerable. So open. Perhaps they were open once. Maybe when they were very young. Maybe as a child they were devastated. Traumatized by unrequited love, and in many cases the target of a self-loathing guardian. So they closed down their heart. They had to in order to survive. They had nowhere to go. Who would take care of their needs?

It’s hard to imagine a heart being so closed that they are willing to harm others both emotionally and physically. Some say that they are evil. That there is evil in this world.

But it’s really just the manifestation of the heart being nailed shut.


Art by Maria Chambers

So here we are. Those of us who have seen the underbelly of Ascension…where we look within, and we are face to face with ourselves, or at least with those parts of ourselves we had buried. Maybe it was sadness, anger, feelings of abandonment, the broken and wounded heart.

And really it was the wounded hearts of others we took on. We tried to make it our pain. And that’s something we don’t need to do any more.

But I want to remind all of you that what you have been doing is not for the faint of heart. Allowing yourself all the emotions, and creating a safe space for all of your aspects to come back home. That’s the new energy, a balanced energy.

Someone was eager to point out that it’s egotistical to feel proud of being the master and the pioneer of change. Yet, what could be more ego, mind-driven than pretending to be selfless? Putting your own needs second to everyone else’s.

That’s driven by guilt, not love.

Claiming to love others without loving self or at least, accepting self, is really just a study in ass-kissing. It’s an attempt to feel better about oneself by sacrificing and suffering. That’s not so much soul-driven as it is mind-driven, agenda-driven.

The chest thumping antics of the political leader is really not a reflection of self-love and self-acceptance.  And for most, it’s easy to see through that.  In fact, it’s getting pretty embarrassing,

But the humble act is easy to see through too.  The self-effacing, and pretending to care about everyone else, or even the Planet at the expense of caring for oneself….that’s so yesterday.

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Author: soulsoothinsounds

Our lives are like great paintings or great pieces of music. If we focus on all the technical 'imperfections' we will miss the true beauty of the work. We won't see, or rather, FEEL the essence and spirit of the masterpiece. I no longer identify myself as a writer, artist, or musician. Rather I express my divinity, and my humanity through the media of art, music and writing. I began this blog because I wanted to give voice to my experiences and insights, and I wrote for myself primarily. Almost a decade later, I am still writing for myself, and I am discovering that my experiences are not personal but universal - galactic even. And now I am more sure than ever that I am a new consciousness teacher, as each of you are. The way we teach is by going through the very human experiences, and as we ascend and shed our old selves, with love, and as we embody spirit in this lifetime, which we are all doing, we become the standards for others of the new divine human.

30 thoughts on “You Can’t Skip The Middle Step

  1. Please keep writing. You are speaking to my soul and it is uncanny what holy medicine it is to know that someone else feels the same about so much. By the way- I have been seeing and feeling 11:11 for well over 3 decades now and always knew it was a message when others looked at me like I was nuts….

  2. Hey dearest Sistar Goddess—-as I keep saying, “It’s an inside job!” Not that I came up with it or anything….but it is ALL inside us!

    you are spot on.

    Weight Watchers used to always say, “one is not enough and a million is too many!” And in this case nothing is enough. heehee poor guy……I wonder if he ever has ANY happy moments. He is such a great catalyst for change and folks speaking up and and and…..all the shit coming out to the light to be healed.

    My latest saying is, “loving me then loving you!” Or loving me, then loving my neighbor. 🙂 ❤

    And I came up with "It's all about ME. Mindful Eating." My passion right now. YAY!

    love you tons and tons. AND THANKS!

  3. Thank you, Maria, I nominate the following for THE statement of the year:

    “Claiming to love others without loving self or at least, accepting self, is really just a study in ass-kissing.”

    I hung out in the ass-kissing department for years… made it easier to survive, but upon learning to love myself, setting my boundaries and taking my power back, I discovered, much to my surprise that I was not a for-real ass-kisser, that it was not something that came naturally… thank heavens! And recently I’ve discovered that not only am I not an ass-kisser, but I’m a naturally kind person…. with boundaries! Love, B.

    • Right, Barbara, you are a naturally kind person. (Who sets appropriate boundaries). In fact, the consciousness you are in now you wouldn’t have the capacity to hurt anyone, or to misuse your energy toward that end. In fact those of us who are the forerunners have stepped out of duality consciousness in which there are battles between the ‘light and the dark.’

      We are no longer projecting our shadow outside ourselves. We are coming into a balance that can only be achieved by integrating our dark and our light. So interesting.

    • I am chuckling, Barbara! Love this.

      I am with you!

      Love to US ALL!

    • Barbara I heartily second your nomination. From another former top drawer ass-kisser who turned out to not come by it naturally, and is also now an easily kind being with boundaries! Love how you articulated this so perfectly.💕💞💕

  4. Exactly, Elizabeth…he is a catalyst for change,,,much needed change. Does he have any happy moments…I’m sure he does. But it’s so interesting how so much energy directed toward him magnifies his issues. Like someone winning the lottery and then going into total self destruct mode.

    I think he reminds many people, especially women of their own experiences with abusive boyfriends or husbands. Those narcissists who were never satisfied. Having been in one myself, I can say he was wonderful in some ways, and he had his moments of compassion, but he was just too wounded.

    But, I am grateful for him because he helped push me into more self-love and independence.

    And well said, it’s all “coming out to the light to be healed.” Love to you siSTAR 💕💕💕💕💕

  5. Yes, grateful for that first marriage! Amen!

    And he is the father of my amazing and completely wonderful children. ♥️♥️😀😀 #wallowingingratitude

    And I saw him recently and we had a lovely moment. We were NOT the same people anymore. I apologized to him. He apologized back. It was an arranged marriage and I was 18! So young.

    Super healing and the “kids” (they are 37 and 34, not that I am close to old enough 😀😀😀♥️♥️♥️) loved it.

    Loving me, loving US ALL!

  6. “Someone was eager to point out that it’s egotistical to feel proud of being the master and the pioneer of change. Yet, what could be more ego, mind-driven than pretending to be selfless? Putting your own needs second to everyone else’s.”

    So true! I love to say that I’m one of the pioneers of ascension. I have been on this path for so long, I spent my whole 20’s in this emotional, mental and physical mess plus my early 30’s and damn right I’m proud to have managed to go through it because we all know how f*ing difficult it was (back then much harder than now, because we on the forefront transmuted a lot of the energies to make to easier for the rest to access them.) So yeah, I am a pioneer and I’m not gonna hide behind false modesty and neither should anyone who has been on this journey for a long time. Like Elila said under another post of yours, this process is a full time gig and takes up so much if not all of our energy, so yeah we are masters and we can be proud of it.
    On another note: is anyone else feeling these intense energies at the moment? I especially feel it in my head and jaw (mostly pressure). A lot is going on right now energetically

    • sorry Maria for using another name.

      gingercat = Kat

      But I bet you sensed my energy anyway and knew it was me haha

      • Oh Kat…that’s funny! No, I didn’t connect gingercat to you, but yes, it did feel familiar….

        And I have felt on the tired side lately, some pressure in the sinus area, gums. Maybe others will weigh in on what they are experiencing.

        • Oh yeah tiredness, too, or more like laziness really. No motivation to do anything else than relax haha. I read that the energies are stronger because of the equinox tomorrow. I usually don’t pay much attention to particular dates but this time I can really feel it.
          Much Love to you my friend

        • Hi 💜💜💜…same here…pressure on the sinus area, gums and jaw…a little “inner fever” too…for me feels like a lot of water (emotional) is ready to find its way out….😘😘😘

          • Hi Leticia,

            yeah I feel a lot of old beliefs are on its way out and old emotions, too (they are intertwined after all). Exciting to see where this is going. It can only get better ❤

    • Hi Kat! This is so funny, as I was reading your gingercat comment i did feel familiarity and then you mentioned my name but it still didn’t click, but when I got to the part about the head\jaw pressure I thought oh Kat and I were talking about that same thing not long ago… Yep I too am feeling the intense energy. Actually it started first of the year and hasn’t seemed to let up much! I do feel like there has been an acceleration and major shifting happening- like getting to high gear. Lots of third eye pressure and sometimes pain & migraines. Sensitivity in teeth. Like Phoenix said, shitting loads and erratic appetite. Lottttttts of tiredness, and not being able to fall asleep til the wee hours of the morning and then not waking up til well after noon sometimes, and not being able to shift that pattern no matter what I try–like getting off the internet early, going to bed earlier, blah blah blah. I finally have internet again and I had a gift card from Xmas to use and I thought well I have really missed streaming music (me too instrumental only, Phoenix!), so I thought about getting a blue tooth headset so that I wouldn’t disturb neighbors in apartment building and still be able to move about whilst cooking and such–& then I thought um yeah I am already so flippen sensitive to electromagnetic fields\energies and getting migraines from them–do I really want to put Bluetooth ON MY HEAD???!! Lol. Relieved to hear I’m not the only one feeling the intensity! Oh and having to drink even MORE water than the gallons I ALREADY have to down to avoid the migraines and dehydration, so peeing every 30 minutes or so–which is such a pain especially when I’m out walking for an hour or two–i have all the loos mapped out on my route…..oy. And what Barbara says below about waking up exhausted and annoyed from weird dreams and all the massive bloating–yep me too! And one more comes to mind–getting super super COLD at a certain point every evening after supper.
      Sooooo….now more than ever this whole ascension business is DEFINITELY a FULL TIME GIG!!! Like you and Maria were saying on another post, I can’t even flippen IMAGINE being able to do this with a job (not even part time!), a partner, kids or even a social life–i can’t even manage FRIENDS really right now. I can barely keep my one plant alive lol. Ascension is all i can do for the time being. Hugs to you 😊💞

      • Thank you, Elila, you’ve done a Masterful job of telling it like it is for us in the trenches. Me, too, can’t imagine being able to do this with anything or anyone at all that isn’t just Me and my Cat, though I admit I’m managing to keep some plants alive in my living room. I hope they help me breathe when my sinuses and runny nose take over! Oh, and don’t forget being woken up with such severe foot and leg cramps, one must leap out of bed, work those out as best one can before running to the bathroom to pee or poo, or just sit there on the seat, freezing and nauseas… back to bed… on and on and on. Hey, I have an idea. Maybe it’s time we just ALL said ENOUGH! Thanks again, everyone here, I so appreciate this blog. Love, B.

        • Yes Barbara, indeed. I said it this morning: I’ve had it. Enough is enough. Mostly because if I bloath any further, I will get stretch marks. 😂
          But hey… We’ve got eachother. And that’s a lot. For love. We’ll give it a shot. (Channeling John Bon Jovi)

      • Getting cold after dinner. Haha yes! Noticed that last evening.
        All the other stuff: yes!
        We would make a great couple Elila. 🤗
        Have a nice day. 😘

      • “i can’t even manage FRIENDS really right now”
        Aahh Elila you said it so perfectly again. And yeah my existence as a recluse has been going on for a while and I just need this time on my own. It doesnt look like it’s gonna change. how can people have kids and stay sane? I don’t get it. But then they probably aren’t feeling these symptoms so hard.

        • Kat,
          I KNOW right??? I’ve never been able to wrap my brain around parenting. I’d go mad and probably be a terrible mother with all the alone time I require. And I do mean REQUIRE– there’s no room for compromise on that front. Also walking–i cant function without that either. I feel the same as you about being a recluse–its been so long and it’s so necessary and I’ve really embraced it and enjoy it so I can’t imagine it changing much. Maybe a little but not much! I also agree with you 100% that EVERYTHING can (and WILL) be healed for us!!! I think all people have that potential but few will believe it enough to experience it, or ALLOW it enough. I know people who really hold tightly to their diagnoses and define themselves by them, fiercely proclaiming their limitations. Whatever– that’s not us. We are transcending all that nonsense, and for me every time something recurs I think we’ll that’s just another big chunk being stirred up and OUT. Hope you feel better my dear friend!

          And oh Barbara I forgot about all the foot pain! I had it for soooo long– getting out of bed and could BARELY walk on my poor feet. And there were many nights where they would get so HOT Id have to get up and put them in icewater for relief! Knock wood those particular symptoms seem to have passed. But still the cold toilet seat in the middle of the night lol….I feel ya!

          Stefan I had a feeling Phoenix was you! We would certainly make a COMICAL couple– both of us cold and bloated and ravenous LOL. At least we wouldn’t be fighting over music or the thermostat —just the BATHROOM!!! 😂😂😂

          Loads of love and warm hugs to all of you–i appreciate you more than words can express 💞😊💞

  7. Reblogged this on Infinite Shift.

  8. Panic attacks ranging from severe to mild, eating a weeks’ supply every day, shoulders getting broader and broader (thin waist gives a funny view), shitting loads of crap (pardon my french), déjà-vû’s every few hours, feeling like a kid one second the next second looking at birds and the sky like Sitting Bull.
    That’s what comes to mind now.
    Bleeding Gums (Murphy, the friend of Lisa Simpson).
    Listening to instrumental trumpet versions of 70ies classics as well. Lyrics are ‘too much’ at the moment.
    Writing symptom lists on ascension blogs. 🤓😉😘❤️

  9. Writing ‘that’s what comes to mind now’ and then adding 3 more symptoms. 😂😂😂🏆

  10. Re The Symptoms… perhaps we could re-write the script for “Sleepless in Seattle” to include scenes when we wake up exhausted, physically feeling like a squashed pancake after a night of yech dreams, to get up to immediate bloat, disorientation and nerves afire. And don’t you love it when you do venture ‘out there’, folks tell you how good you look, when you know you look like… a scene from the ‘re-mastered’ “Sleepless in [name your location”] movie? Been doing the symptoms since 1999! Have asked for some breaks… apparently, no one hears me, which makes me sad and homesick at the same time. I’m visualizing the last scene of Star Wars when we get our nice new uniforms and medals. Love, B.

  11. and another symptom would be another acute episode of my chronic illness. very annoying…
    Although as I said I don’t believe that anything is chronic. illnesses can all be healed

  12. I feel so in home with your writing, it makes me feel like there’s really nothing wrong about everything I went through this past years and what I’m going through right now, thank you very much Maria!

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