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Long Tables

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Nothing earth-shattering, just a few observations.

The Starbucks I have been frequenting for quite a while was recently renovated. They put in two long wood tables in place of single and double seating small tables.  I didn’t like it.  It felt like we were being herded into close quarters with strangers.  I stopped going there.

A couple of months later I decided to stop in and tried sitting at the long table.  It was surprisingly comfortable.  They were wide enough so that the person on the opposite side wasn’t in your face.  There were outlets underneath to plug in your devices.

They were constructed of a nice warm wood,  as were the sturdy chairs.

And, I noticed something else.  It was actually nice to be surrounded by folks.  Sometimes you want your privacy, and sometimes it’s nice to have a casual conversation with a stranger.

I’m sure the corporation’s plan was to provide more seating with the new design, but were they also considering that we are living in a culture in which our primary relationship is with our smartphones, iPads, and laptops?

Were they intending to bring people together socially in a world where we don’t know each other’s names?

I don’t know, but now I really enjoy the long table.  Most of the time there aren’t too many other people sitting at it anyway, but I am no longer trying to sequester myself to a quiet corner of the cafe.

In fact, since I’ve been sitting at the long table I have had a few people I don’t know reach out and ask me if I am a writer, and seem interested in what I am about.  They even want to read my blog.

And I find them interesting as well.  They have interesting things to say about their own lives, and we share a couple of laughs.  These feel like heart connections, and I will take them.  If we never see one another again, it feels as if the connection was consequential for all involved.

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So, this morning I am surrounded by young teen girls from the local middle school.  They come in each morning before classes, chat with each other, and some search on their phones for….well, what the hell do I know what for?  There’s five decades between us!

From what I hear, that generation is hungry for an affiliation, acceptance, social media attention, and becoming famous online.

It’s the ‘like’ generation.  How many likes can they get on their Instagram or Facebook page, maybe?  Almost famous?

Speaking of teens, a while back this place was teeming with teens who bombarded the place before and after school each day.  And it was hell!  I avoided those times of day.  But now it’s much calmer.  The students here are a bit older, and, they are almost all female.

So it feels more peaceful.  Interesting.  The female energy feels more calm, even from teens with raging hormones.  The boys were generally much more boisterous, intent on attention grabbing, and were much more competitive with each other.

There were times when the barista would tell them to get out if they were not going to be civil.

There were a few instances where they tried to destroy property here.  But I noticed the balance of male to female made a difference in the prevailing mood.

The female definitely had a calming effect, even if their conversations were animated.  It’s a different dynamic.  There is so much more co-operation between friends, helping each other with homework, being more gentle with how they explained things to each other.

It felt more balanced.

I get the sense that if there are an equal number or more girls in the mix of teens, the boys are more apt to adapt to the prevailing energy of calm and co-operation.  It’s as if many of the boys actually like that energy but need permission to embrace it.

Of course I’m talking in general terms, there are always exceptions with both genders.  And, I’m sure the boys being more animated gives the girls permission to let loose a little more, and not try so hard to always be sweet and nice and accommodating.

Oh, and look at that.  A group of girls just left for school, and by golly, they actually cleaned up their spaces and pushed their chairs back in.

That rarely happened with the boys.  The poor baristas were routinely left with a mess to clean up.

But, having said all of that, the girls tend to spend much more time in the restroom, and use much more toilet paper.

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Author: soulsoothinsounds

Our lives are like great paintings or great pieces of music. If we focus on all the technical 'imperfections' we will miss the true beauty of the work. We won't see, or rather, FEEL the essence and spirit of the masterpiece. I no longer identify myself as a writer, artist, or musician. Rather I express my divinity, and my humanity through the media of art, music and writing. I began this blog because I wanted to give voice to my experiences and insights, and I wrote for myself primarily. Almost a decade later, I am still writing for myself, and I am discovering that my experiences are not personal but universal - galactic even. And now I am more sure than ever that I am a new consciousness teacher, as each of you are. The way we teach is by going through the very human experiences, and as we ascend and shed our old selves, with love, and as we embody spirit in this lifetime, which we are all doing, we become the standards for others of the new divine human.

8 thoughts on “Long Tables

  1. Reblogged this on Infinite Shift.

  2. Hi Maria and everyone…..Been out of computer access for a bit……nice, but missed you all!

    I was a primary school teacher (in one of my many this-life incarnations!) and what you noticed about boys and girls is confirmed in the classroom. Classes with more than half boys are MUCH more unruly and require more effort from the teacher to engage that larger proportion of boys, but not so at all with an over-half girls class. Ditto on the tidying up, pushing chairs in etc.

    Having worked with nursery children as well, it was clear that there is a definite difference in attitude and behaviour (boys of all ages seem to like smashing things up, yet get royally pissed off when someone destroys something of theirs.)

    You are right, regarding this being a generalisation, BUT definitely with GROUPS of boys, the more extreme boy behaviour wins out and then the gentler boys either join in or get called names or ostracised. It makes me shudder to think of an all-boys school (which I have never been involved with) Yet I went to an all-girls high school myself, and felt very happy there.

    Another observation…..when young boys do mischief it is mostly in the spirit of fun, seeing how much they can get away with…..but no concern – even no awareness – for how much their actions may hurt others. When young girls do mischief (which they definitely do LESS often than boys) it is more deliberately mean. Again generalisations, but exacerbated by group size and gender-proportion.

    Deliberate proportioning would make a huge difference to the childrens’ learning and happiness (plus the teacher’s too) in schools and groups.

    This makes me wonder about the natural order…. I suspect that there are too many men in the world. I feel that the proportion of female to male is off. Based on my observations, a world/country/town/village with more women and fewer men would be calmer, tidier, kinder, etc, etc.

    It’s possibly not so simple, and there’s loads in this, of course, but this is just me reflecting my own observations and experience.

    Big Love to everyone xxx

    • Hi Gail…welcome back! Your observations are interesting. It makes sense. And agreed, we are not making sweeping generalizations here, but it’s definitely still a man’s world in many ways. That’s changing of course. And it’s helpful to have more women in the mainstream of societies, absolutely.

      But it’s also going to be essential that women (including girls) begin to set themselves free from their OWN pain and suffering. They will need to awaken to their own god selves, and stop taking on the shame and blame and guilt that has been in their DNA.

      We are seeing the beginnings of that now in 3D, as more and more women take up roles of power, and who no longer allow the male gender to define who she is or is not.

      Then we begin to see real changes in consciousness in the male gender, too.

      As women stop trying to assuage the male anger, and stop being the nurturer of his unconscious state, he will begin to embrace his own feminine. Then there can be a balanced society.

      But that’s gonna take awhile.

  3. Hello everyone.. I missed being here with you all ♥ I love wood tables Maria.. they bring up this feeling of home ♥

    • Me, too, Tainara….they are a really substantial wood, too, no expense spared. A very smart choice on Starbucks’s part. Yes, that feeling of home. I often spend hours at Starbucks. It’s a very warm and inviting environment. I always liked their sense of interior design…using the warmer colors, and now the woods.

      There’s a kind of a den-like quality. Cozy. I don’t like when they try to get too modern with plastic and metal without the warm woods and soft armchairs.

      • I don’t like metal either.. I just… don’t.. and plastic has been a topic to me.. I’m going for another alternatives, trying to use less and less, even thought it’s a small scale impact I feel like being more respectful with dear Gaia. lots of love to you, my friend!

        • That’s good, Tainara! I try to be more conscious of that too, although it doesn’t always work out. But you’re right, we are the shepherds here on Earth. Even small scale, it makes a difference. Love to you too my dear friend. 💜

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