For the female gender, sexuality, including sensuality has been seen as dangerous, as something she was not allowed to enjoy. The shame and stigma directed toward her and her sexuality was normalized. It was used against her, and she also used it as a weapon in order to protect herself and garner a modicum of respect and value.
I remember the fear and guilt I felt around my sexuality as a young woman. When I did want to express it, there was the added fear of pregnancy.
I used protection, but I would often give into the male’s needs and abandon the sheath. Until I learned I could use an undetected form, the diaphragm. Which was not terribly romantic, and not always comfortable, but I knew it was better than getting pregnant.
I was told that I was a whore because I wanted to date someone my father disproved of.
I was told that I was putting my father in a grave because I was living with a man I was not married to.
So, sex for me during those years was fraught with guilt and fear. It was no wonder it was not easy to enjoy it. But in spite of it all, I did enjoy it. But I also feared the consequences. And I internalized the stigma, the guilt and the shame.
And in retrospect I know that I was not alone in that type of experience.
For many women sex is associated with pain, both emotional and physical, and after awhile, the body itself rejects it because of the process of aging and the symptoms that come with menopause.
I am not speaking for all women, of course. But for many women the female menstral cycle itself is associated with discomfort and shame.
In some cultures women and girls must stay in small huts during their cycles so they do not ‘contaminate’ the others in their family. Many women have died of hypothermia in those huts during the winter months.
Women are shamed for wearing clothing that is form fitting, and at the same time encouraged to look like models.
They have been given the clear message that their bodies are what gives them value, and are for the male gaze, and male pleasure and at the same time punished for displaying those bodies. And by displaying I mean simply existing. Their sensuality is misinterpreted as sexuality by those who don’t have a clue what sensuality really is.
It’s no secret that women are hyper-sexualized in the media and film, and women in positions of political power are scrutinized for how they are dressed, not for their policies.
Girls and women are accused of being a distraction to men in school and college if they are not dressed ‘appropriately.’ They are accused of seducing men when they are just enjoying their own sensuality. Rape culture is still alive and well in colleges and universities.
WHY I BRING THIS UP
I bring this all up because the thing that stops women from their own freedom, and their own embodied enlightenment is closing down their own sensuality.
In past lives many women tried to attain their enlightenment by cloistering themselves in convents. There they felt safe from sexual intimacy and the pain and shame associated with sex.
But they discovered that the could not really embody their own Christ consciousness by closing down their sensuality.
It is possible to be extremely sensual without ever having sex. Sensuality can include sex, but it really doesn’t have anything to do with it. But our chauvinist culture associates sensuality with sexuality all of the time,
In fact, our soul is all about sensuality. The main reason our soul enjoys this physical experience is because it is such a sensual experience. And yet It is totally understandable that a woman who has had a history of sexual abuse or harassment, or just every day sexism and misogyny, would want to shut down her sensuality.
Or women who are older. We are taught that we are not supposed to be sexual or sensual past a certain age. So older women as well try to stay in the mind, and try to ignore their body, and shut down their own sensuality.
But if we are to allow this embodied enlightenment it will require a full-bodied experience. That makes many people uncomfortable. Many women especially want nothing to do with their own sensual nature.
Especially given their history of being disrespected and worse for being sensual beings.
PRESENT-DAY ANTI-WOMAN CRUSADE
And now we see across the globe the crusade against women’s human rights is heating up with these punitive abortion bans. Women are being told once again that their sexual pleasure is wrong, and must be shut down, and criminalized.
The anti-women agenda can no longer hide behind the sanctity of life, or protecting a clump of cells called a fetus. It has nothing to do with god. It is about trying to make women feel less than human and shamed because she desires sexual pleasure if it has nothing to do with reproducing.
If that were not so, then men who are the other half of the equation would also be held accountable. Has anyone heard that the men who impregnated the women are being held responsible legally or criminally? Or even peripherally?
Of course not. The burden invariably falls upon the woman. The eroding of her personal freedom is insidious, and it has been progressing over time.
But as bad as it all sounds, this is the best of times for women who are awakening. The Divine Feminine is here, and she is beginning to disrupt old, stagnant systems like never before. And those of us on the forefront of enlightenment are ushering in that Divine Feminine.
Women on this planet need NEW role models. They need to see women who embody their Christ consciousness and the sensuality that goes with it.
Women are stuck and at a loss as to how to get unstuck. They are understandably angry. Yet they can’t really enforce or demand equality in terms of how they feel about themselves.
Yes, it’s time to hold those abusing their power accountable. Absolutely. And women are rising and making themselves heard, and have solidarity with their sisters across the globe like never before.
And, of course in response, the patriarchy and its status quo are nervous.
But women are still not going to be truly free until they embrace their own divinity. And that’s where we come in. It’s what we are doing as we allow spirit into our bodies and our lives.
We are paving the way so that the women who come after us, even those who are not born yet, can have an easier pathway to their own freedom.
So the pain stops here with us.
We are the new leaders. Women have traditionally been the bringers of social change. Now it is time for a change of consciousness never before experienced.
And it’s no surprise that Women are in the forefront of that change.
But we won’t be able to be the examples if we are still in suffering and pain ourselves. We are required in this new dispensation to release the pain, the shame, and the guilt. We are required to UNBURDEN ourselves. To finally allow others to hold their own energies.
Women’s freedom requires them to sever their old ties with humanity.
We can’t step into our freedom if we are still holding energies for humanity. We need to free up our hearts, and our bodies, for only spirit to dwell in.
To feel the essence of that spirit that goes beyond our mind and our heart is the challenge. The spirit that wants to be with us comes to us through our body, and we experience it as a sensuality that often comes in from the earth up through our sexual organs themselves.
It’s different for everyone, but it does require us to be receptive as we would to a lover. But this lover is one that can be trusted with our heart, our mind and our body.
That is going to sound uncomfortable for some. That’s ok. Give it time. If you haven’t already, there will come a day when you will feel spirit in that way and it will knock your socks off.
So, it’s no coincidence that abortion rights are front and center now in the headlines. Abortion is not a complex issue, it’s not nuanced, it’s not the most difficult decision a woman has to make, and it’s not heartbreaking for most women. That is all just hyperbole peddled by the anti-abortion agenda.
In fact it appears that the agenda of those who wish to control women’s body and her own autonomy is quite simple. It’s making sure women are not allowed to have pleasure.
But women are not victims. And we on the forefront of this transformation are courageous. We play victim to NO ONE. Not to any god, or any government. not even to our own mind. In fact we are not even operating from that reality anymore, unless we choose to.
We are creating along with other adept souls, our own safe, sovereign domain. One in which we can be fully ourselves, without sacrifice or compromise. And without fear.
I like to call it true women’s liberation.
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