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Social Change, Enlightenment And Body Image Trends

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Art by Maria Chambers

Author’s note:  I ran across this older post that I never published.  So I updated it a bit, and here it is.

Here in the United States, in the 50s And 60s, before women’s liberation, the female gender was encouraged to look like Jane Mansfield or Marilyn Monroe.  Curvy and full-figured.  At the time I was a stick.  While my female classmates in grammar school were breaking in their training bras, I was still wearing tee shirts.

I was ridiculed in the girls’ locker room, and consequently I hated gym class.

Fast forward a couple of decades later, in my 30’s, in the ‘thin is in’ post Twiggy era, I was still a stick, but now many envious ladies were asking me what my secret was.  Fast metabolism?  I really didn’t have an answer.

Women are given absurdly stringent standards of beauty, no matter what era of history.

And of course it shouldn’t matter to a woman, because she needs to set her own standards.  But what a woman is awakened to now is that her appearance isn’t the defining factor of her worth.  In fact, it’s not any part of her worth.

She is worthy simply because she exists.

But I do find it interesting that the obsession with being thin seems inversely proportional to how much progress women have made in terms of equality.  In times of social progress of the female gender, the body ideal is thin to critically underweight.  The more she rises in power, the more she is encouraged to take up less physical space.

And in those times of progress for women, typically men are more obsessed with body building images.  The more a man feels threatened by feminine equality, the more physical space he wants to take up.

Whereas in the ‘good old days’ before abortion was legal, and women knew ‘their place’, the body type for her was full-figured.  And it seems men were not as interested in sculpting huge muscles.

And of course, different cultures have different standards of beauty.  When I visited Greece in the early 70s my lean profile was scrutinized as unhealthy and less physically appealing than the more full-figured European women.

WHEN A COMPLIMENT ISN’T

An acquaintance at the cafe, a man in his 70s, told me he was reprimanded by the management of another cafe he frequents because of his practice of greeting some women on the staff, even strangers with, You’re beautiful!

They told him it makes those women uncomfortable, and to knock it off.

This guy is an otherwise decent person, and is always understanding toward women’s rights in every other respect.  But he couldn’t understand what was wrong with his behavior.  He felt like the reprimand was just political correctness gone too far.

”It’s not like I called them a dog or ugly!” was his defense.

I tried to explain to him what is obvious to most women.  That a woman has been given the message all her life that her physical beauty, which is invariably associated with her ‘sex appeal’ was her defining quality. And to be seen as more than that has been a struggle for her.  It has been a struggle on a personal, social, and political level.

So being told she is beautiful right out of the gate, and by a complete stranger, just reinforces that message.

And, even beyond that, it puts women on the spot to respond, and to give a man attention back, even if she doesn’t wish to do so.  It takes away a woman’s sense of privacy, while it reinforces the message that women are here for the male gaze and for his own need for attention.

I guess it’s like with presidential candidate Joe Biden and his history of disrespecting boundaries with women.  What was once acceptable behavior was never really o.k.  And in light of the  #MeToo movement, there is a surfacing male resentment associated with being told he has to stop behaving badly toward women.

And as I talked more in depth with my cafe pal, he agreed that the ‘compliment’ toward women was more of a passive-aggressive act.

But getting back to body image, there has also been a trend toward body shaming that has taken hold.  And not just toward women, but if someone is over the ‘acceptable’ weight, they are told they are lazy, overindulgent, and even unhealthy.

They are given the clear message that they are simply taking up too much space.  That their body weight and shape is unacceptable. And the health risk argument doesn’t prove out medically or scientifically.  The theory that ‘extra’ weight causes heart disease or high blood pressure or diabetes isn’t necessarily true at all.

How many thin folks are walking around with all kinds of health risks and diseases?

But even doctors like to shame their patients into changing their lifestyle when it comes to their weight.

WEIGHING IN ON ASCENSION

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Art by Maria Chambers

In the ascension process the body does, for a period of time, gain weight in order to ground the immense amount of light.  But over time the body doesn’t need the extra weight, and sheds it NATURALLY.

Many of us have discovered that no amount of dieting or exercise can keep the weight off.  Trying to approach it from a 3D perspective really does very little.

I gained a lot of weight early on in my ascension and since have lost it without any attempt to exercise or to stop eating foods I enjoy.  I am far from the ‘stick’ I was a few decades ago.  But that was not actually very healthy.

And after gaining so much wisdom and a much broader perspective, pun intended, I sometime look at an extremely thin woman and it causes me to recoil now. I see her as unhealthy.  As actually unattractive.

As a woman my physical body has gone through many iterations.  And it’s taken me a while to be comfortable with my body and my age, both of which are not who I am.  And it has helped to remember who I REALLY AM.  We are here as magnificent and confident and worthy souls expressing through these temporary, carbon-based vessels, which are transforming into crystalline bodies.

The body needs to be healthy and we need to feel attractive to OURSELF.  Whatever that may be for each of us, without the filter of someone else’s perspective. All ages, shapes, and sizes are beautiful. And for me it’s a relief and a joy to no longer use arbitrary outside standards to define who I am.

Enjoy my video, Can’t Keep a a Good Woman Down

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Author: soulsoothinsounds

Our lives are like great paintings or great pieces of music. If we focus on all the technical 'imperfections' we will miss the true beauty of the work. We won't see, or rather, FEEL the essence and spirit of the masterpiece. I no longer identify myself as a writer, artist, or musician. Rather I express my divinity, and my humanity through the media of art, music and writing. I began this blog because I wanted to give voice to my experiences and insights, and I wrote for myself primarily. Almost a decade later, I am still writing for myself, and I am discovering that my experiences are not personal but universal - galactic even. And now I am more sure than ever that I am a new consciousness teacher, as each of you are. The way we teach is by going through the very human experiences, and as we ascend and shed our old selves, with love, and as we embody spirit in this lifetime, which we are all doing, we become the standards for others of the new divine human.

9 thoughts on “Social Change, Enlightenment And Body Image Trends

  1. Dearest SiSTAR Goddess—oh my gosh. This comes as the most perfect time. I am probably the heaviest I have ever been right now. I have gotten really clear about what you say exactly about going through this transition and shift and that I have needed the weight. It’s still here and I get that I have to drop completely all judgment of myself. It is there for a reason. I am focusing on loving life, enjoying all that I eat and do and BEING.

    But in my 3D humaness I have been so judgmental of myself for not being lighter. I have been so mean to me about my size and shape. AND it doesn’t seem to matter what or how much I eat or exercise, etc etc. AND then on a walk today I all of a sudden realized that I have been holding my ideal standard about what I want to look like to my old self, my 33 year old self. AND I am not my old self anymore. Not by any stretch of any part of me.

    I can look in the mirror now and see myself as attractive and lovely and fun. It is only when I see my reflection or in a photo that I think I look super heavy. I don’t feel as heavy as I look.

    Your analysis is so interesting and correct about women holding weight and women being downright skinny. AND men bulking up. Hmmmmm…….

    WE are living in crazy interesting times.

    Thanks again for your insightful and brilliant blog post.

    I love you and I loved your song!! Woooohoooo!

    Can’t keep us good women down, oh no!

    • Well, dear siSTAR, you are positively amazing! Given the culture we live in, one that works hard to make all women feel uncomfortable in their own skin, it’s not always easy to see ourselves as the magnificent beings that we are. But the good news is….Just doing what we are doing….following our joy….is all that is required, and our soul will take it from there.

      So glad you enjoyed the song. And thanks for reblogging on elizabethsadhu. And BTW, I love love love your header image on your blog. Love you my friend.💜

      • Thanks honey! I love that photo of me dancing, also. In my bliss place.

        What you say about being in our joy is so darn perfect and I know this. That is my focus, I just need to remind myself every so often.

        love you tons and tons

  2. Reblogged this on elizabethsadhu and commented:
    yep. perfect.

  3. I just remembered that I have been reading the #1 Ladies Detective Agency books, which I love! It is set in Botswana.

    The compliment to Mma Ramotswe is often, “you are looking beautiful and fat”. And it IS compliment. I love that.

    Here is my favorite quote so far.
    “She was a traditionally built lady, after all, and she did not have to worry about dress size, unlike those poor, neurotic people who were always looking in mirrors and thinking that they were too big. What was too big, anyway? Who was to tell another person what size they should be? It was a form of dictatorship, by the thin, and she was not having any of it. If these thin people became any more insistent, then the more generously sized people would just have to sit on them. Yes, that would teach them! Hah!”

    Isn’t that awesome??!!??

    Loving us all.

  4. Wonderful post! I too have gone through a journey of self-acceptance and self-love. It’s taken me quite a few years to finally be comfortable with who I am no matter what body type I have. I’ve been skinny, have had an athletic build, and now I’m a little on the thicker side. Over the years I’ve learned it’s way more important to focus on developing qualities that Jehovah God values, not trying to conform to ever changing societal views on beauty. I’m so thankful that Jehovah never forces us to reach unreachable standards.
    “But Jehovah said to Samuel: “Do not pay attention to his appearance and how tall he is, for I have rejected him. For the way man sees is not the way God sees, because mere man sees what appears to the eyes, but Jehovah sees into the heart.” (1 Samuel 16:7)
    “Charm may be false, and beauty may be fleeting,But the woman who fears Jehovah will be praised.” (Proverbs 31:30)

    • Heatherjo86, it definitely is a journey of self-acceptance! Unconditional love for ourselves doesn’t come easily as the human tends to be very self-judging. So as we allow our soul, our eternal self…whatever name you want to give it…..to become our partner, we find that she has the capacity to love us in that unconditional way that brings tears to our eyes. The beauty of this process of embodied enlightenment is we as the human don’t have to try to become a ‘better’ or a ‘good’ person. Our job is to allow our non-physical counterpart to be in our bodies and our lives. Our eternal self never judges us. It sees us as magnificent. And it understands that all of our life experiences become the soul’s wisdom.

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