Victims-r-Us Superstore

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What the heck kind of a title is that, you may ask?  Is Maria running out of topics and trying to lure us readers in with weird post titles?  Well, you’re half right.  How many things can you write about in this ascension, consciousness shift after awhile?  Especially as we move out of victim consciousness.

Have you tried having a conversation with anyone in your family or your community without the conversation getting around to victim perpetrator topics?

Even those of us who have become more conscious can be lured into feeling like victims, even of this transformation.

I’m not making a judgement here, because it’s the human condition.  From the moment we are born we are swimming in a consciousness that believes they are being victimized in one way or another, in both overt and very subtle ways.  And the media and culture reflect that right back to us.

And that’s because humanity does not understand that everything they need is already within themselves.  We on the leading edge are just beginning to understand that principle.  We have been taught that energy is outside us, and so we need to go outside to extract energy and bring it into us.  Whether it’s love, health, financial abundance.  And we must protect ourselves from a harsh reality that’s out to get us.  We must have health insurance, Life insurance, death insurance, and wear masks.

If it’s not a virus, or a disease, it’s the government, it’s the boss, it’s a family member, another race, another gender.  For some, it’s the devil himself.

We thought we had to eat the right foods, take the right supplements, do the exercises, go to the gym, get the colonoscopy.

Work at the joyless job.

Lest we become victims of sickness or poverty.

Religions teach that we are victims of a god that will judge us harshly if we don’t comply with his set of rules, whatever those may be.  And it moves around a lot depending upon the religion, the sect, or the agenda of the religious leaders.

For instance for the FLDS community victimhood is the basis of their teaching. It’s based on being persecuted.  They believe that pain and suffering is the only way to know that god is testing them, his chosen ones.  Because god isn’t testing anyone else.  Everyone else has it easy.

And, the misogyny, and sexual and child abuse in that religion isn’t just denied by the members, it’s actually condoned as part of the path to god through pain and suffering.

So their so-called Prophet can do no wrong.  Even when he is arrested for a variety of sexual abuse crimes he is embraced even mightier by his flock.

When members were offered a way out of that community, most refused.  It was the life they knew.  It was family.  To them it was safe.  Safer than what they believed was awaiting them in the outside world.

Many of us have been in abusive relationships where we felt this way.  We truly believed that the protection we were offered there was better than what we would meet outside that door.

Yet behind closed doors we were right there in the lion’s den.

It’s challenging moving outside our comfort zones, isn’t it?

Yet in our awakening we have been pushed out unceremoniously.  But we wanted to face our deepest fears and move beyond them so we could lighten our load.

And being outside of a victim-type consciousness is initially pretty uncomfortable.

Now, here’s the thing.  As we awaken, we can be pretty irritated, and frustrated,  we can be sons-of-bitches at times.  We have no tolerance for energy feeding.  Which is what victim consciousness is all about.

We have a lot to feel frustrated about, what with all of the changes in our consciousness and our body, all the sensitivities, and other physical symptoms.  Even though we chose this lifetime to become embodied, it doesn’t mean it’s a walk in the park.  Quite the opposite. It’s brutal.

But a victim consciousness is more to do with an unconscious state of being.

The victim is feeding too.  Not just the perpetrator.  If we are being fed off of, we in turn will need to find a place to feed from.  It’s a cycle.

We could go to be fed in actual food, drugs, alcohol, or an imbalanced relationship.

There is a difference between needing to vent, and a feeding. We know the difference.

Being here as a consciousness pioneer can be lonely.  But relating to others can be challenging because of the prevailing victim consciousness.

Our mind is used to relating in that way to others and to us.  It’s used to being in defense or offense mode.  Always trying to protect us.  Which means there’s something ‘out there’ that’s gonna get us, sooner or later.  Just wait.

And if you’ve lived here long enough you know all the things that can and do go wrong.

A big part of the pioneering work we are doing is facing all of those feelings of fear, and victimhood.  Not trying to overcome or deny them.  Just accept them in ourself.

This mastery requires a sincere honesty with ourselves.  Not a judgemental one, but a compassionate one,

I know for myself, in order to relate to some of my cafe friends, I will discuss how women are still treated like second class citizens, which they are. But I also know that I am here with my fellow pioneers to release that consciousness that came from my bloodline as a woman that is all about guilt and shame.

And I notice that there is still some of that in me, that buys into that belief that as a woman I need to hang onto the guilt, and the shame, and there’s even some anger in me toward my own gender.

It’s easy to embody it even as a woman.

I know that I am truly not a victim, that I am sovereign, and I am neither man or woman or any gender.  Maria is just an expression of my SOUL-SELF.

Playing around with victim perpetrator topics can be fun, it’s duality at its best.  And it’s fine, as long as we are aware, which we are, that it’s just a game, then we are playing in that sandbox with ourself and others, and we can easily move out of that sandbox any time we want.  It’s for entertain purposes only.

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Here’s a fun and sensual video featuring the song, Ascension by Maxwell….



16 thoughts on “Victims-r-Us Superstore

  1. elizabethsadhu

    You did make me laugh, dear SiSTAR Maria.

    AND I was really thinking about the victim thing while I read your post. I think one of the things that can tweak me the most is folks who act like victims, constantly complain, and don’t do anything about fixing their situation……argh……and I have in my life 2 people who I feel “stuck” with. One is my ma. (A COVID blessing is that I don’t have to see her very much.) Another COVID blessing is that we are doing social distancing from the other person who tweaks me (I could say bugs the shit out of me…….heehee)

    But then I started wondering if I complained a lot and so therefore this tweaks me… know, the old mirror thing…….but I do KNOW that I get things done. AND if I don’t like something, I change it or fix it. So………pondering that. Another part feels that I MUST HELP or change their minds to see things another way…..notice the blessings, so to speak. So, that old care-taking me rearing her interesting head. 🙂 So, it is exhausting…….Maybe I should send these two people to your store, Victims-R-Us. Although I am guessing neither one sees themselves that way.

    As I tune in to try to come to terms with why these folks are in my life……I do get that they are baby souls…..AND right now with COVID, I AM getting a break… YAY for that. And I ahve figured out a way to give myself some good boundaries, but it is a bit of an ongoing process.

    Thanks for letting me process that here. ha! “This mastery requires a sincere honesty with ourselves.”

    Holding onto this, “I know that I am truly not a victim, that I am sovereign, and I am neither man or woman or any gender. Elizabeth is just an expression of my SOUL-SELF.”

    Fun song, Ascension. Groovy!

    Much love and thanks, dearest Maria.
    Loving us all!

    1. Same here, dear siSTAR. Sometimes I wonder why certain folks are still in my life to the degree they are. I wonder, as you say, are they a reflection of a part of me, for myself it’s that victim consciousness? Otherwise why would I still be associating with them?

      And for me, I sense it is yes, that I am still to a degree holding that energy. At least, an aspect of me is. And maybe to a degree the care-taking energy as well.

      Sometimes I will justify it with, well, it’s lonely, and there’s few folks here in my physical community I can sit with and shoot the breeze. But, I can see the B. S. in that excuse. Haha.

      But it doesn’t matter. It’s not my problem to figure any of it out. It’s just to accept it and get on with my day. Because even these old aspects that may be lingering around, we know they’re not who we are.

      And I agree, it’s about setting clear boundaries when necessary, even with family.

      1. elizabethsadhu

        Thanks! That is so comforting. I don’t have to figure it out!!!!!!!

        Hallelujah. That is something I REALLY REALLY REALLY needed to know today.


        1. Lyn

          Elizabeth, I really resonate with that, as well as what Maria wrote. My mother ( now 92) has remained a challenge too.
          In my reflecting, it can be as Maria said- a small part of me being either mirrored or hooked. I have happily just let victims go – apart from her. I think it’s old ideas of duty to be there for elderly parents, and my desire not to be harsh by just cutting her off.
          I had a watershed conversation with her last month. She basically said she was happy to keep complaining to me about her health and my sister who abandoned her over 20: years ago. However she wasn’t prepared to do anything in deference to my other sister. She said she did listen to me but just never acted on it! So that was the contract- turn up and listen to the whinging but I had no place!
          Now, I don’t think it serves her higher good to stay focused in this stuff either. My way has always been to empower others, yet that isn’t possible with her by her choice. So I am not checking in with her as often now as it’s not a role that really works for either of us. She’s not a bad person: she just is stuck and ‘knows not what she does’.
          I too have had a problem with those who constantly want sympathy and don’t do anything – and , yes, I’ve been a doer as many of us have been.
          It became an even bigger frustration in my final months before retiring from counselling. I can see why others are stuck mostly, but being an audience to it beyind an initial ‘being there and listening ’period serves neither.
          I have always had challenges with seeing where others come from and thus cutting them too much slack when I am being affected.
          I think there are remnants of my ego don’t like looking like a heartless bitch too. My family have been big in volunteering and looking after the less fortunate. I know I am viewed badly for not being there as expected for Mum, or volunteering when it have time these days.
          More work to do on allowing them their journey. My daughter reminds me that I was them once but am not there now, So I have completed the journey they are on.
          None of us can really expect others to understand what we are about.I also have to remind myself of how having the setup of the dependent self focused mother assisted my path and growth – as it did.
          So, yes Maria: acceptance, boundaries and not chewing over it mentally as I once did.

          1. elizabethsadhu

            Lyn!!!! I hear you sister! Oh my gosh. My hubby and I went to see my mum today. An hour and out. WE stayed outside on her patio and visited from a distance. She actually has non-Hodgins Lymphona so you would think she would get that she has to be careful but she watches too much FOX news. WE don’t talk about politics, we have agreed not to. She loves Trump. ha! She is a kind enough person but not super smart and very malleable and VERY easily swayed.
            So, COVID blessing, not too much time with mum. I gird my loins before going, what to wear, etc. Argh……today I held onto Maria’s words “it’s not my problem to figure it out.” YAY!!!! I kept repeating it to myself on my drive there and I could FEEL MY BODY RELAXING……. Oh my. So cool! So, it ended up being an okay visit. One of the better ones.

            My other person I have had in my life for almost 30 years. My beloved hubby’s ex-girlfriend. I tried and tried to include her…..way too much. AND then finally in the last few years I realize that I had to create some HUGE ASS boundaries with her. My honey still feels compelled to take care of her. Probably because she owns the home we live in. Bought it just for us to live in. We said no at first. She calls herself an independent woman but she is one of the neediest people I know. She texts us 20-30 times a day. So, I keep giving that up to the Universe……I’m going to focus on “it’s not my problem to figure it out.” Thanks Maria, dearest SiSTAR!!!!

            Also, I had a download several years ago of a technique I call the Cloud Council. I ask for my highest self and the highest selves of anyone (or thing-like money) to come to the table. Then I sit with it for a few seconds and release. So, perhaps I do know that I cannot fix and it is not my problem.

            And I am laughing a bit because one of the things that came to me about 20 years ago was in relation to my son. He had moved out of the house and I would occasionally think and wonder if he had car insurance, etc. AND I would say loudly to myself NOT MY BUSINESS! NOT MY BUSINESS! I started using it again recently as a reminder that “I don’t have to figure it out, it is not my problem.” hahahahahaha

            Thanks dearest wonderful humans for being here.

            I am loving us all!!!!

  2. Lisa

    Bingo, Maria!!!

    Odd how we worked so long and hard to climb out of our own victimhood and awareness of our personal victim tendencies, only to now be greeted by the rest of the world – including those close to us – experiencing heightened victimhood! All of their buttons are being pushed now (like ours were in our awakening phase) and we are seeing them react like typical humans steeped in victimhood. Not easy to watch and even harder to let happen without jumping in with our own old, reactive, karmic ways. Wow. Just when you think you’re out of the woods… BAM!!! The strength it takes to survive the “frequency revolution” we are living through now (and have been for years) is astounding. Ya gotta laugh – WTF were we thinking???? 🙂

  3. Lisa, I love your expression, ‘frequency revolution.’ That aptly describes it. And yes, it really does test our mettle as awakened humans at times. Where was that celestial in-house attorney Who should have read us the fine print before we dove in. Oh, actually, we did know the hazards awaiting us. But as angels, we were all, “wow, diving into the new, expanding consciousness. Who care if we get a few broken bones in the process?”

    Being here in the flesh and having to endure this time and space dimension always looks easy from the other side of the veil, doesn’t it? WTF, indeed!

  4. elizabethsadhu

    Isn’t it fun how I was in the right track (I think) but Maria’s words REALLY REALLY clicked for me?

    Love it!!!

  5. Lyn

    You all may have some insights for me… ( hope you will forgive me for weighing in with a personal request like this but you are where I am and may have a higher view.
    It seems oddly coincidental that, straight after deciding to pull away from my mothers neediness, my (naturally spiritual) 40 year old had a massive panic attack for the first time. She has now tied up a lot of my attention in assisting her when I though I was meant to now be living in joy and focused on that.
    She isn’t complaining like a victim but weeks later she still is battling the flow on from it. She is very energy sensitive and was already feeling energy shifts.. She has also set up her life so that she only has me..No partner, no friends outside work, a father long absent, no other family she can call on.
    Not only that but I used to deal with a lot of panic attacks and I probably have more skills to assist than many still practising. I also do Reiki which helps her. I aim at empowering her and she is heroically getting stuck into helping herself.
    The timing seems odd and I do wonder if the living in joy wasnt the complete answer yet even if that’s what I’d much rather do. I truly am over assisting like this but love her and can’t see whether it’s a belief of mine that may be a spanner in the works.

    1. Lyn, I don’t sense your concerns are just personal to you, but are reflective of many of us transitioning into our greater self. It may be the final clearing of any caretaking energies, which can manifest in many ways with many different people in our life.

      Have you noticed a shift in your own energies now relative to her compared to before your shift into joy? In other words, even though you may still be there for her, and assisting her, are you less attached to outcomes on an emotional level?

      I notice for myself that seems to be the case. Not that I care less, but there isn’t that sense of, I am responsible for this person emotionally, which I had felt before.

      I sense this is a process that may take several stages to release. Each time we are faced with the issue, it seems to diminish in intensity. We are perceiving it from more of a multidimensional level as it comes up again. It can be a caretaking issue, a health issue, financial, anything that would normally trigger fear, concern or guilt.

      You have let go of so much karmically, and the relationship will naturally reflect that.

      1. elizabethsadhu

        Hey Lyn–I agree with Maria….I’ve been thinking about you today, Lyn. AND it can be hard to shift with a dear child. Grown, but still your baby, in many senses. It sounds like you are doing what you can with empowering her. Sheesh….with children it is hard to say NO. We want to help them. And sometimes it can feel good that they still want our help.

        I’ve noticed recently that part of my caretaking with my kids is worrying about them a bit. Energetically. I KNOW they are fine. They are both doing very well. They are 36 and 40 and pretty much NEVER ask for anything. But I noticed that I still put out a bit of worry energy towards them and THAT doesn’t bring me joy. I think it is an old mama paradigm. They live very independent lives and they also don’t fit into the “normal” lifestyle categories of spouse, kids, etc. Which I am fine with but I think that there has been a tiny part of me concerned. SO, I’m cutting that cord. Thanks for helping me realize this, Lyn.

        AND may I say that I LOVE it that you asked for some support here. What joy is that????!!!!!! ❤ ❤

        As a sensitive myself, I have had a few things come to me that help me.
        1. I imagine myself surrounded with green jello. It provides protection, energy bounces off it, it is a healing color and you can see through it.
        2. I ask myself, when feeling feelings, "is this mine?" Most often NOW it comes up as a no. So then I put those feelings on a burning Viking ship and send them out to sea. Not my business to transmute them. (Although I used to think it was.)
        3. I go to what I call the Cloud Council. Ask for my higher self to be there (you really don't have to ask because we are SO there now.) along with anyone else's higher self. Put what is needing to be dealt with on the table, so to speak, and ask any questions. Pause. I have often done this several times a day… need only be a few seconds at a time.
        4. Sometimes I just need to say REALLY LOUDLY to myself-OUT LOUD- "NOT MY BUSINESS, NOT MY BUSINESS" to unhook.

        My guides and my higher self have told me that if we caretake others now we are taking away from them and their experience and their need to do it for themselves. But sheesh, there are so many layers and it takes time to untangle them. BE KIND TO YOU!

        much love to you, Lyn, and your daughter, and to us all!!!

  6. Lyn

    Thanks so much Maria and Elizabeth for responding. Yes, I’m not as emotionally caught as earlier on. I even had a frank discussion with her about ‘what if this had happened and I was no longer around, what are your choices?’ Etc.
    In truth she has always been complicated for me. She had a brain haemorrhage at 16 and has a lot of fragility since. Yet that event was also the birth of more spiritual her, and she has an adventuring side ( travelling the world alone for a year only 5 years after that event).
    I can easily talk my stuff with her. While she doesn’t meditate or have the same sense of communicating within as I do, she is very wise And is at least an Indigo.. or even into way showier areas. She has little energy for anything outside work and became a hermit long ago. She has no fear of death and nor have I, but she does really crumple and can’t even think straight to work out where to come at anything. So I feel I need to come in with clarity and add strength ( an old habit too). Anyway I’m prattling.
    It sounds like there are no obvious beliefs you both can spot that I could be feeding into this hanging around still. Just more of a steady release of the old caretaker stuff.

    1. elizabethsadhu

      And here comes another big hug. So much love for us all!
      And so true, Maria, we do have to remember to be kind and gentle and compassionate with ourselves……maybe most of all.

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