Ascension and Flying Solo: Me, Myself And I

If you are reading this, you most likely know that the more awakened you become, the less you are surrounded by people you can relate to on a soul level.  And, even if you are in a ‘significant’ relationship, you can feel quite alone.  Not necessarily lonely, though, because you have an online community of like-minded souls, that relates to you on the level you appreciate, as you are establishing a relationship with your divinity.  But, on a human, one to one level, with someone you can sit across from, you may be coming up empty.

You may be finding that relationships that were established in the old energy are no longer satisfying.    Even those people you considered friends and acquaintances are becoming tedious and unfulfilling. In the past you accommodated others, trying to connect with them at their level, even to the point where you didn’t even recognize you were doing that.  In past lives fitting in was essential for your safety and survival.

Not something you need to be concerned about anymore.

Rest assured, there are people in your life who want to ride on the coat tails of your radiance, who like being around you, but who are not willing to be their own lighthouse.  So, rather than be in that type of energy feeding,  you more and more prefer to spend time alone, doing things on your own, rather than compromise your joy.

It can be a difficult place to be where you are letting go of other people, or they, you, and you are still not yet integrated with your new partner, your soul.  I remember, when I was younger, when a relationship ended I would jump into another immediately, not understanding that I took my vibration with me.  So I created more drama with a new partner.  So it is now, as we find ourselves alone, perhaps some of us are without a partner, we want to jump into the relationship with our soul without doing the inner work.  And that work is simply to love ourselves just as we are.

We now understand how important it is to be with ourselves in a profound way.  Otherwise we will keep attracting unsatisfying connections to others, and even to our soul.  Because our soul honors our choice to keep it at arm’s length, and as long as we are trying and pushing for results, we keep anything we desire at arm’s length.

I recall, in my past, how many times I tried to ‘change’ my partners.  How I kept trying to make them love me more, or understand me more.  I kept projecting my unfulfilled desires onto them.

In the past, we felt incomplete without a partner, and it was because we already felt incomplete within ourselves.  It’s how most of humanity feels.

But now, with ascension, embodied enlightenment, we become complete, or rather, we embrace our wholeness.  But not by searching for the right person or partner out there.  And in a world that is all about coupling up, and love and marriage, it can feel quite unnatural to fly solo.

Yet as ascending masters it becomes imperative to make the relationship with ourself and our soul the primary one.  It requires a committment to self in which we choose solitude for a time.  Unencumbered by a relationship in which we become distracted.  And unfortunately, most relationships on the Planet are based in duality, in a co-dependency.  They were designed to show us where we were at, as a reflection of ourselves.

At this stage of our ascension we no longer need that mirror.  We no longer connect with a partner from a place of neediness, loneliness, boredom, or insecurity.

Many of us stopped looking outside ourselves for that elusive soul mate and realize that we are destined to reunite with our true love, our own divine nature.  We experienced a falling apart of any relationship that was built on the old paradigm of feeling unfulfilled.

We find ourselves in a new place.  Does it get lonely?  Of course it does.  Will it take time to feel that fulfillment from our soul?  Yes, but the price becomes too high to do anything else.

So if you find yourself alone with no partner, you couldn’t be in a better position to accelerate your ascension.  It is indeed a sacred space.  If you let go of the societal pressure to ‘couple up’ you find that you begin to build a strong foundation of self-love and health.  But it requires coming to a place of peace with where you are at:  not quite there yet with feeling that deep connection with your soul on more of a day-to-day basis, yet not wanting to enmesh yourself in any relationship or partnership of the old energy.  You cannot afford that kind of compromise.  Your soul does not compromise its integrity for any one or any thing.

And, as we give ourselves the gift of embracing our divinity first, becoming that loving partner for ourself, if we choose to have a flesh and blood partner to share our joy with, they will be there.

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