Compassion, Not Sympathy

You have a big heart, and you do not enjoy seeing your fellow humans suffering.  Hell, you don’t enjoy seeing YOU in pain.  And you have held your hand out countless times to those who you felt a heart connection with, whether they were someone you knew or a complete stranger, trying to soothe them in any way you could.  For that you are deeply honored.  That had its place.

But where you are going, as an ascending human, you will not be taking pity or sympathy with you, but you will be taking compassion.  There is a big difference between compassion and sympathy, or pity.  Compassion, at least the way it’s used in this discussion, is allowing others to be just who they are, allowing them their own journey.  What that looks like to you is really not your concern.  Even if they choose suffering, drama, and victimhood.  It’s knowing that they are going through what you went through, and much of what you went through was for the purpose of having more compassion for your fellow human beings.  It has helped you to be a better teacher.  For those you choose to work with.

Sympathy or pity is taking on others’ emotions and pain, and feeling it with them.  Most of us on the ascension path have been taking on the emotions of mass consciousness, of humanity and even to the point of believing that they are our issues. We are in the process of letting that go. It’s a big step in our evolution.

WHAT ROLE WILL WE PLAY?

As you let go of your caretaking role, on a more personal level, it may feel awkward at first, especially if you still have relationships built on past connections.  You may feel challenged right now to reconsider those connections.

There may be others who come to you.  They may even come to you and tell you they want change, that they can’t bear to be here a moment longer because it’s too painful.  They may have an awareness and many insights into their situation.

They may say they are ready for change, that they just need to be heard, and acknowledged.  That they are wanting someone to help them to understand why all this is happening to them.

Some mean that.  Some are truly ready to step out of the old story, and they just need someone to guide them.  You will know pretty quickly if that is true, or if they just want to feed off of you and then go back to their old ways.  They sense your balance and they want to feel that too, but are not willing to do the necessary inner work, the hard work of loving themselves and allowing their soul to love them back.

But even if they are ready to move forward, does that mean you are wanting to play the role of guide?  Many of us took on that role as our default.  Not considering if it was truly what we wanted.  Outside of being a professional guide, as in providing a spiritual service in which we get compensated, is it what we want to do?

In other words, are you looking for clients that you can assist, or do you want an equal, a friend who is at the level you are at, who is already becoming self-loving and sovereign?  Someone who can be a true friend.  Where there is no compromising, or dimming of your light in order to connect with them.  Or where there is not a teacher/student relationship.

So sympathy is not doing you or anyone else any good.  It’s taking on the emotions of the one in pain.  I love the analogy in which someone is sinking in quicksand, and their friend in an attempt to assist them jumps into the quicksand too.  Looks like they are going to have to find a third-party to pull them both out!

The new energy is based upon compassion for others and for the Planet.  It’s having the wisdom to allow them to continue their own journey.  It’s not about rescuing anyone or saving anyone.  The Superman complex gets tossed out. Many in the New Age Community will have issue with that.  They for the most part still see enlightenment as being all light and excluding the dark.  If they have not faced their own shadow with love, they will continue projecting it outside themselves.  The enlightened being is someone who brings back all of themselves, the light and the dark.  And because they have done that, they can have the deepest compassion for others because they know that they too must go through their own awakening.  That no one can be rescued or shielded from their own shadow, or their emotions that have been suppressed.

YOUR RADIANCE IS GROWING

As a master, as your light grows, don’t expect everyone to ingratiate themselves to you.  To many people you will be considered a pain in the butt!  That’s because light has a tendency to bring to the surface issues that have been hidden.  Not everyone is ready to look at those.

And others will be drawn to you because they sense that you have been where they are now.  You provide a safe energy for them to be themselves.  It’s not what you say so much or what you do, it’s just your radiance, which is growing as you continue loving yourself.  The difference now is you no longer need to feel that you have to help them.  If it brings you joy and does not diminish your light, then go for it.  But so often we have done the knee jerk response and ended up downloading others’ emotions without realizing it.

Sometimes I would justify staying in a relationship by telling myself they were much more conscious, much more aware than they really were.  Or that I was still struggling with the same issues they were.  But really i just wasn’t owning the place I was at, a very new place.

If you enjoy being with them and feel no need to swoop in and help them, then that is a good place to be.  I have a dear friend I have known since college.  Although he and his husband live across the country, and although he and I do not see eye to eye on the existence of the soul, we truly enjoy talking to each other.  There seems to be a genuine heart to heart connection without any agenda, or any feeding going on.  Our conversations can be interesting and deep, sometimes sharing personal challenges we are experiencing, but without trying to change each other or pulling in drama.

Every once in a while a friend needs a hand to get out of that downward spiral of self-condemnation or feeling victimized by life.  But you are wise enough now to know if someone has a tendency or a pattern in which they continually create drama and crisis.  You begin to see that they are enjoying it too much.  They are still getting something out of it.  It is serving them in some way.

And you are wise enough to know that by holding their hand and bailing them out emotionally you are not helping them and are diminishing your light in the process.

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